I want her back

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Registered: 06-15-2005
I want her back
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Wed, 06-15-2005 - 5:48pm

My Girlfriend of 5 months broke up with me last tuesday. IM 23 she is 20. She was my first girlfriend and first love, and it was pretty serious.

She told me she loved me within a month into the relationship, and asked me a few times if I would marry her. She told me I was the best boyfriend she ever had. A couple of weeks ago things werent going as great as before but they were still good.

She said she wanted to take a break the thursday before she broke up with me because she said we saw too much of each other and that things were getting boring (we watched movies and laid in her bed a lot). She always wanted to hang out with me and got mad when i didnt spend time with her. So this got me confused, naturally.

She broke up and cited different reasons why. Then sunday night when we were talking she told me:

and to not be so smothering
girls don't like it when guys are all over thyem
girls like assholes
and guys that don't care
and guys that are too busy to hang out

This came as a shock because she told me when we started dating she wasnt into games. She said she loved me and said we could still get back together.

I NEED TO KNOW WHAT I SHOULD DO TO GET HER BACK. I LOVE HER SO MUCH AND I AM SO HEARTBROKEN RIGHT NOW :(




Edited 6/15/2005 6:06 pm ET ET by shatteredheart2005
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Registered: 06-14-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 4:36pm

my 2 cents... you ex is crazy and very much immature. There are some girls otu there that are attracted to bad boys. However, there are some girls out there who very much want to spend every waking moment with their bf, to hear him tell her that he loves/wants to marry her etc. you both are way to young to be talking about marriage... have you even graduated from college, travelled, or had different relationship encounters?

i know its painful and it seems like the sun will not come out again, but your wrong; time heals all wounds.

my advice, is to take it one step at a time, hang out with friends/families and do all the things that you enjoy doing.

good luck.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 7:42pm

shatteredheart2005....


Pianoguy knows what you're going through and certainly won't try to talk you out of being miserable....BUT.....


Consider the 5 points your (NOW EX) G/F hit you with.....and then consider....her age (which is 20).

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Registered: 09-12-2004
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 9:08pm
IMO (in my opinion)...you don't want a girl who is going to string you along, be with someone who wants you as much as you want them! I know having a broken heart sucks, but you will get past it. Even if she comes running back to you, chances are she will run away once again..history has a tendency of repeating itself, if you don't take the action to change what is going on around her. You wanna be with someone who respects and appreciates you, if she wants a bad ass, then let her have him! I agree with the rest, I am only 20 myself, and I know I am in no position to settle down, way too much life to live and what we want in our 20s usually changes in our 30s.