i want him back, does he want me back?
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| Wed, 05-09-2007 - 12:34pm |
So it's been 3 weeks since our break-up, (he broke up with me) and I lasted 2 weeks with No Contact. I thought that was pretty good, then last week I broke down and asked him to chat on the phone, that i missed talking to him. So far, its been a week, and we have spoken every other day on the phone or online. it's been pretty even, we both have reached out to each other to talk.
Then the other day he spoke to me online and said hes not doin well, he misses me. then he asked if i wanted to do lunch later this week. I said Maybe. I couldnt say Yes right away, after being hurt so badly, I want him to REALLY want to see me. I'm waiting for him to ask me again about lunch, I'm not contacting him, it was his invitation.
I don't know if this is his attempt to be "friends" but I dont want to stay friends forever. I am hoping eventually this "friends" thing could turn into our relationship again. I have such mixed emotions, I am excited, nervous, terrified... and I don't know what to expect from him. I have been so miserable without him, he was my true love, my best friend, and after 2 years I can honestly say I pictured him in my future.
I know if I see him for lunch or whatever I need to remain tough, don't break down crying, don't ask to get back together, etc. If he wants me back, he will say it. Right?
I've had 3 friends who's exbfs came crawling back and wanted to get back together, with flowers and gifts and all. I don't want all that, I just want him to give us another chance. : /

guessgirl21...
This isn't an issue of comparing your g/f's EX's....it's the one YOU WANT "BACK IN YOUR ARMS AGAIN!" /
YOU BLEW THE "NO CONTACT" THING....and how did he respond?
If he sounded interested in a possible reconciliation....give him a few days to respond, then call him again. If he was basically disinterested....LEAVE THE MAN ALONE!
This represents CLING-Y NESS....which isn't good for any woman (or man for that matter) TO BE!
Pianoguy
Uhmmm.... I don't think you read her post right. Yes, she broke No Contact, but he responded by being an equal partner in calling/emailing back and forth w/ her. And he said he missed her, having a hard time. And HE ASKED HER to lunch.
To the OP, I would wait for him to ask you to lunch again. And if the lunch happens, just have lunch...no expectations, no "I want to get back together"...just have lunch. If he brings up getting back together, tell him you want to take it slow (that's IF you still want to get back together). If he says he just wants to be friends, then decide if you want that (and it's OKAY not to).
If your way too emotional about it, maybe it's too soon for YOU to meet up with him.
Remember, there's nothing wrong with slow, there's nothing wrong with figuring out what you want. Let him come to you. If he wants to, he will. If he doesn't, well keep moving on (yes, I hate when people say that to me too, but it's true).
Good luck!
zjaney