I want him to want me back.
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| Thu, 01-25-2007 - 4:19pm |
My ex and I broke up in August. We didn't talk for 4 months. 2 months ago he kept contacting me and eventually got back into my life. He hasn't talked about getting back together specifically, but he has apologized to me and told me how much he values me as a person now. We talk daily, as friends. Either through text messages, emails, or phone. We don't ever see eachother though because we live in different states. He claims that he is not trying to get back together with me, that he just wants me in his life and he wants me to see the real him. He makes contradicting comments though about either our past or our possible future.
Do you think he has alterior motives? Does a man ever want to just "be friends" and talk to his ex everyday?!! It seems very odd to me.
How do I get him to come crawling back? I have to admit that I still care for him very deeply. I wouldn't want to get into a relationship with him again until he has changed. But I want to be the one in charge here. I want to be wanted! This probably sounds bad but I can't help it. What should I do to make him want me back?

You know I think he wants you back. I think he is just saying that he doesn't so he isn't coming on to strong. Who broke up with who? Need to know that. I think you should keep doing as you're doing but get together with him and see what happend. Old sparks may reignite.
I am kinda in your boat. Only my x is also the father of my 2 kids. We were together for 6 years. He left in october. Fed me some crap about how he didn't love me and some other crap.. Then a week later he is over here asking if we can be "sex" buddies. Meanwhile he has a new girl. I have been having sex with him. Bad me!! Not in a few weeks and I intend to keep it that way. I am still very much in love with him but he is dealing with this stupid 19 year old. No offense to 19 year olds but she is just so childish.
I know it hurts but just see what happens.
Since you are in different states, is he dating someone? Could he be dating and not telling you? If so, you could be the 'back up' just in case things don't work out or develop with him and someone else.
Good luck.
Carrie
He broke up with me. The major problem is that he wasn't willing to move out here (CA). Now he says that he wants to go to school out here, etc etc. That now he is ready. I don't know if I can believe him though because he is one of those people who has big dreams but doesn't always follow through, if you know what I mean. Also, he is 25 and I am 20. It's not really possible for us to see eachother because he lives on the east coast. He asked me to go visit him out there but I told him no way. There is no way I'm spending the time/money to go visit the man who broke my heart. It would be foolish. I asked him why he wants me to and he said he just wants to spend time with me. Sounds fishy. I told him if he wants to see me so bad he can come out HERE. He doesn't have the money though so it won't happen.
Sorry about your situation with your ex. Men can be so stupid! I am convinced that they don't ever grow up. They will be 18 year olds forever. Lol. Good for you for not having sex with him anymore. Keep it that way!! Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?? Haha :-P