I WANT TO TALK TO HIM...
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I WANT TO TALK TO HIM...
| Thu, 07-26-2007 - 3:38pm |
I know I keep posting things, but it's the only way to vent! My ex and I work together and we just broke up a few weeks ago. I found out he is seeing someone new and I just want to either go up to him or call him and ask him if he's going to continue seeing her. It's killing me! How could he move on so fast? It's eating away at me that he is seeing her.

I'm going to tell you NOT to do it...multiple times. Don't do it, don't do it, don't do it. I just responded to one of your other posts...please read the part where I'm talking about the grieving process for men vs women. It's different, and it might help you to see that while you are feeling the brunt of the pain NOW, he won't really feel it until much later. But he WILL feel it. Like someone said before, you can't just forget about someone. He hasn't forgotten, he just isn't feeling the pain yet. But he will.
LEAVE HIM ALONE!! A man cannot truly know what he's lost until he's actually LOST it. So leave him alone, don't contact him, and show him how much life will suck without you!! He'll realize it eventually.
S
Ok, say you call him and he says YES I'm going to continue to see her.
Do NOT talk to him about it. It doesn't matter. You are both free to do whatever you want now, and would you rather him see how much power he still has over you or think that you may have moved on already yourself?
It may in fact be that he checked out of your relationship a good deal before he mentioned it to you. Most people do because despite it being their choice it's a difficult and painful experience. If it helps, be angry that he lacked an ability to communicate what he was feeling.
I can't imagine having to work with an ex. I'm having a hard enough time maintain a casual friendship with my ex's bestfriend's girlfriend (we became super close in the 18 months we were together). She wants to stay in touch, but I HATE having to hear what she did over the weekend because I know HE was probably there, so it keeps me connected and I want to be as FAR out of the loop as possible. I don't envy your situation. You can't avoid him professionally, but try to remove yourself as much as you can from his personal life. The bottomline is that the relationship is over, and anything going on in his life doesn't matter and doesn't concern you anymore.
Or go read the "who handles break ups better" down two sections. Here's the yahoo link
http://health.yahoo.com/experts/menlovesex/29235/who-handles-break-ups-better