i want us to be friends... huh?
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| Sun, 04-29-2007 - 9:01pm |
My ex broke up with about 3 months ago due to some issues that was out of my control. The day we broke up i asked her if we would ever have a 2nd chance and she said probably not, but she wants us to be friends. I said i couldn't do that so I started the healing process of no contact. A month later I get a call and she says I haven't heard from you in a while and wanted to say hi. I was like okay? I kept the convo short and hung up. As fate might have it 2 days later i run into her on accident and I kept the conversation cordial, but during that time she couldn't even look me in the eye. A few weeks later i get an email saying that she was sorry for some of the things that happened while we were together and wants us to stay friends, but understands if i need time. then she says we should grab dinner sometime and that it's her treat.
I'm completely confused on why she wants to be friends with me after breaking up with me. Any insight on why she wants to be friends?

I can try to give you some insight. I broke up with my boyfriend in January. I too want to at least be on friendly terms. I went into therapy after the break up, not just due to him, He was my first relationship after ending a 20 year marriage. We fell hard and I desperately hurt him. I am in a new healthy relationship. I have made amends with my ex-husband and I feel that I want not make same mistakes as the past. My therapist suggested that I make amends with everyone in my life, so I tried to be friends with my ex-boyfriend. He however is too hurt to try when he found out that I have moved onto a new relationship. He thought that talking=reconcilation. Once he found out and did not want to talk, I have to respect that, and forgive myself. I told him that being that we live in a small area we are bound to run into each other and that I hope he is prepared.
Now, I certainly don't know the particulars of your situation, but maybe she wants to be friends because she feels bad about how things ending and wants to on some level make it up to you. Just because you break up with someone does not mean that you stop caring about them. Maybe she wants to take the relationship to a new plane. Just my insight. Good luck :)