i "WAS" doing good - Right?
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i "WAS" doing good - Right?
| Wed, 08-25-2004 - 11:21am |
after almost three weeks of no contact - i called him and told him that i still had some of his stuff. he agreed to meet me and talk - we did not talk - we were silent the whole time. he did make one thing very clear when i went to hold his hand though - he tensed hp and said that he wasnt ready yet, and that he would be more than happy to let me know when he was. we hugged and said our good byes - and now im right back to square one. i told him that i was moving out of state and he seemed like he was upset - he told me to get my school out of the way before i moved. what the hell are all of these mixed signals? help me please!!!!!!!!

It is you who are confused about what is going on. You need to take your time and think what you want from now on, get back together?, get over him?, be friends?. Only then you will know what to do next.
Iliana
You initiated contact. You made the first move in trying to hold his hand (which he resisted).
The fact that you're back to square one now is one of the many reasons why most women who post on these boards encourage the rule of absolutely no contact. In most instances, initiating contact (after however much time has passed) almost always ends up causing a setback for the one who was left.
I think he was wise in telling you to get your school obligations out of the way first before you move. As to why he may have seemed upset, perhaps because it would be harder for him to string you along via long distance than if you continued to remain in the area.
That's my two cents.
Heymum