I WAS going so well, what have I done :(

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Registered: 11-28-2007
I WAS going so well, what have I done :(
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Wed, 12-19-2007 - 1:59am

Firstly hello, I have been lurking for a few weeks here since my breakup trying to gain strength from everybody,now I feel I am back to square one.

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Registered: 10-28-2005
Wed, 12-19-2007 - 11:30am

Yep, yep. Been there. This weekend actually. I wonder what people get out of playing power games like that. I only ever dumped someone once in my entire life and even though I knew the person was hurting beyond belief I felt it was actually better just to ignore them, as much as I wanted to comfort them.


My feeling was that if I contacted them and said nice things, it would give them false hope, and they just needed to move on. Now try, if you can, to imagine how weak and spineless a person would have to be to stay in touch with someone they didn't want anymore. To stay in touch simply because it made them feel better knowing that somewhere out there a person was waiting for them, hanging on in vain....


Not a very nice thing to do...especially when you play the back and forth game of: "Oh yeah, I really want to talk to you" and "Oh yeah I'll be around this weekend, please give me a call" And then not show up, or show up late or whatever. So, yeah. I totally commiserate

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 12-19-2007 - 11:48am

Hi Karen,


I think ignoring him would be best for you and your healing.


He's allowed like anyone else to have a weak moment, to reach out for comfort etc. but the fact that he drinks and doesn't even remember the conversation, well that would seal the deal for me and I wouldn't be taking any more of his calls.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-19-2007 - 11:58am

You need to decide for yourself whether you're done with him or not.

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Wed, 12-19-2007 - 7:41pm

Thanks for the reply.

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Wed, 12-19-2007 - 7:46pm

Hi Carrie


Thanks for you reply.

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Wed, 12-19-2007 - 7:55pm

Hi Sheri


Thanks for your reply...


Ok, heres what I have decided - I hope its the right decision.


He is coming home today, he text to say he wanted to talk when he got home.