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I was immediately replaced.
| Tue, 08-14-2007 - 1:01pm |
6 DAYS after our 2 year relationship ended my ex found a new girl to fill the "position". This is so incredibly infuriating! She's now in there "decorating his house, shopping for him, and taking care of the dog." WHAT?!?!?! They've been together now for three weeks. Can someone please explain this to me?? I can't believe how mad it makes me.

Welcome back faaabulous,
Here's your previous posts so others can catch up:
Boy, I really hate his mom...
Cut my losses?
I had a breakthrough last night.
Think of this (posted ages ago by Pinky)
Think of your relationship like a big house that has been demolished. What do you do next? You can't live in the house any more! So you decide to clear up the mess (emotion), brick by brick, it takes a bit of time, but you liked living in that big house so you guess it's worth the effort. Then there's a big hole in the ground that needs to be filled up again. You start this process by making new friends who are happy to help you rebuild your new big house, so it's bigger and better than it was before.
Your ex has decided that he's going to build on top of all the rubble (denial), he/she can't be bothered to take time out to clear up all the mess. So off he/she goes, building on top of the old house. He/She acknowledges that the structure is a little wobbly but he/she says that it will do for him right now.
The storm hits. Guess whose house is still standing?
Your house is built on a solid foundation. His/Her house is a big fake "paper house", yours a big strong stone structure. Now tell me who's going to have the better future? It's up to you to decide.
Something else to read:
Who Handles Breakups Better?
I know how that feels--my last long-term ex *moved in* with another woman a mere two weeks after our four year relationship ended. It's terrible--it really makes you feel disposable, but some people just can't seem to be alone. I now know it's much more a reflection of HIM than it was of me and our relationship, but it was very hard to deal with at the time, so I can totally empathize.
The best thing you can do is stop the source of where you're getting information about him. Indirect contact (e.g. getting news about him) can be as bad as direct contact for keeping you stuck.
Sheri
You're right. You're right. You're right. I've GOT to stop!!! It's getting close to a month since we broke up and I'm still dwelling. He's moved on, and appears to be doing "just fine" and I'm still worked up. I'm trying so hard. Heck, I'm training for a triathlon... nothing seems to keep me busy enough to keep from wanting to dig up information on him and his new flame.
I know I'm stronger than this.
Faaabulous,
I know exactly how you feel. I saw my x after 3rd days of our break up with his old x hand by hand at a lounge. It was the worst pain i had ever felt to see that situation in reality. I agree with the others, he must be that insecure and not have self confidence to be alone. For some reason they need to have a women beside them in order to feel some kind of security. I will always remember the phrase he once told me....History has a way of repeating it self.
I sometimes wonder, why we dont have the same cold heart as they do just after a break up.
Just hang in there. If he decided to move on that fast...You deserve someone that shows the respect you deserve after an argument/breakup, true love doesnt move on that fast.
Were all here to support you!