im feeling so down......help
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im feeling so down......help
| Tue, 08-14-2007 - 11:31am |
i have been doing ok til the last day or so. its been 5 days since i last talked to ex and he said he was talking to girls online and it was over for us. i guess deep down i thought after a few days when he didnt hear from me he would call me. nothing! i know i shouldnt even want him but man i cant believe he really dont care about me or miss me! i cant stand this wondering if he has someone new or not. is that why he dont love me or care! his daughter goes for her surgery on the 16th and well i got very weak and left him a message on his machine saying i was wondering if he could keep me posted on how she is doing? just becouse we are over doesnt mean we cant be friends! i know STUPID! after all ive read about no contact! im so disapointed in myself! i just want us back to how it was before all this mess! i miss him so much....i cant stop crying right now! whats wrong with me?? my mom says i just must like being treated badly...lol she is not very happy with me.

Hi lostnluv1,
Here's your previous posts for others:
how do i move on??
do i do n/c with her too???
Don't be too hard on yourself. It takes time to heal and move forward.
hi,
i'm going to tell you something that one of my girlfriends told me when i broke up w/my bf of 5 yrs b/c he cheated on me. She said "girl why you are on the couch boo hooing they're out laughing and having themselves a good time" as soon as she said that i thought to myself you know what she's right. the girl that my ex cheated on me w/had the balls to call my house and leave me a msg saying that they were happy and how much she loved him etc. and my gf was right while i was at home in a woe as me state, they were out on the town. so what did i do, i got off that couch and decided that i wasn't going to waste any more tears, time or question my self or my actions. now, don't get me wrong i don't want to mislead you into thinking that i got over him overnight b/c that wasn't the case, i just wanted to point out that if I could have gotten over a 5 yr relationship -YOU CERTAINLY CAN GET OVER THIS!
now, i'm going to ask you the same question "WHY ARE YOU WASTING YOUR TIME ON SOMEONE THAT HAS CLEARLY MOVED ON & HAS LITTLE REGARD FOR YOU OR YOUR FEELINGS?
when you put your time and energy into someone that doesnt/can't reciprocate those feelings back youre fighting an uphill battle that you will eventually loose. stop trying to go against the grain and except the fact that things are over. at this point, you know that they are over you just don't want to except it.
ravishing.
Sometimes moms hurt without you even when they're trying for the best.
I know my mom was the same way. She poked and prodded and yelled and ridiculed me. Jumped all over me all the time while I was grieving without realizing that I needed some time to work things out for myself. At the end I came to resent her because I hurt and her 'help' was making me feel worse about myself. I daresay you're at the same point. When you're ready to move on, you will, and the key is to let yourself do it without letting it define you. There's nothing you can do about the cycle of emotions...just ride it out, and don't act on them.
hi,
i just wanted to add that although its nice to go out and have a good time - try not to rush the grieving process. allow yourself to feel sad, angry, depressed, and lonely only then will you be able to deal with the ending of this relationship in a healthy manner. if you jump from one relationship to another without evaluating the previous relationship you might succumb to the same old patterns and feelings and project them on to the new guy - you don't want to do that! so go thru the motions it really is good therapy.
btw- as for the moment of weakness there's bound to be more.. feel free to call a gf or post on this board. xpressing your feelings will help the healing process.
ravishing
My mom almost disowned me for getting back together with my ex.... i feel your pain honey, i cant quit crying to.... although i hide it well, my friends from my new job wanted me to go to a company function that we sponsor and there would be a wide arrange of people to mingle with and get to know......... i had no interest at all...... so... you are not alone,....
how to get through it, I am not sure of that either, but, i will give words of encouragement on here when i can... so, keep your chin up, time heals all everyone has told me, and i am trying to preoccupy my mind with doing things to better myself... its the idle time that hurts...
keep your chin up, you have friends here.
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