I'm going to Antarctica

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Registered: 05-03-2005
I'm going to Antarctica
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Sat, 12-03-2005 - 9:56am

My ex is fantastic with the N/C rule. He doesn't want to talk to me or see me and has told me so very plainly. (Just to refresh everyone's memory, my b/f of 2 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I also wanted the break 'intellectually' but my heart just wouldn't let me go through with it)

We had stuff that belonged to the other that we had to return but even managed that without seeing each other. He would leave it on my doorstep when he knew I wasn't around and I would do the same. A couple of times I felt we needed to talk to settle some finances but he refused to take my phone calls or e-mails.

Yesterday he couldn't avoid me any longer, (for business reasons). He called me in the morning and we spent the day together settling our accounts. We started out by arguing, at one point he even to threatened to kick me out of his car threatened to leave me stranded about 40 miles from my home at one point, and then we settled down and got to work. When we work together, we work fantastically together. We are focused. We accomplish a lot. And we do it with jokes, teasing, and ease.

Bottom line is, at the end of the day, I realized again why I was so much in love with him. I have been tearful ever since we said our good-byes. I know that we have too many profound differences to be together. I'm positive of that. But I also know that I am losing someone unique that I will always love, (no sense denying that).

I decided I have to get away from this area where EVERYTHING reminds me of him. I need to get through this letting go phase as quickly as possible which I can't do as long as I keep thinking about him. So I booked a flight for Antarctica. I'm going to spend a month where I know it is safe.

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Registered: 09-22-2005
Sat, 12-03-2005 - 10:42am

Hi Michele,

That kind of stinks that you were reminded about how great you and your ex can be together. I guess that's why contacting and seeing ex's can be such bad news. But, you really sound like you've got everything together. I know how hard it can be when you're in a relationship that you know in your head will not work, but you can't get your heart to cooperate. I think that in the end though, you need to listen to your head.

I think getting away is a great idea though! I hope you have a great trip! Where are you really going? I hope you're not going to Antarctica, but if you are, bring a REALLY warm coat.

-Nikki
co-cl of Breaking Up is Hard to Do!

Nikki
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Registered: 09-29-2005
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 7:16am
Holy Moley..u get the prize for the best effort in seeking NC! He sure as heck can't call or see u there..wow..haaa