I'm going to talk to him.

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Registered: 11-12-2006
I'm going to talk to him.
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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 4:35pm
I can't take it anymore! I miss him so much and I just want to talk to him. I am miserable without him. I love him and my heart hurts without him. I hear all these songs and see all these places that remind me of him. I just miss and I want to talk to him..
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Registered: 05-08-2006
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 4:41pm

I think we've all been where you are at one point or another. But Trust me if you do talk to him you will probably feel alot worse then you do right now.

For now, you need to continue with no contact to truly heal. When the time is right to talk to him, if it is ever right, you'll know.

Continue on to your healing.

~Amber

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 4:45pm

If you decide to call, be prepared for his anger and annoyance of your call.

What you feel is grief and it's normal. Sorry you have to go through this.


Carrie

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 4:54pm

Stop.

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Registered: 06-05-2006
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 5:31pm

I don't know how long you have been away from your ex but it sounds like it hasn't been very long if you are wanting to talk to him. I don't know why you two broke up but if he dumped you or you dumped him you should not contact him in any shape or form. If you call him, prepare yourself for more hurt and then you will be back to square one. It is very hard to not contact an ex who you still have feelings for but no contact is best and I guarantee the urge to call him will pass with time. If you feel you need to call him, call a friend or family member instead but please DO NOT call him.

Take Care!

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Registered: 11-12-2006
Wed, 11-15-2006 - 5:45pm
I'm embarassed to say that it has been almost 8 months since we decided to go our seperate ways. Well we didn't really decide, my parents did. Now that he is gone, my depression that was hiding the 2 years that we were together has now come out. It's really easy for me to associate my pain and sadness with him. Because talking to him gives me this high and I feel better. I know he was crap for me, but for some reason I was always the one going back to him. He always just let me go.I could go back to him but I would have to settle and comprimise a LOT and my parents would be so dissapointed. But I still wish he would wake up and realize that something that had potential to be great again is gone and that partying isn't what life it about. I'm so confused, as you can probably tell by my text.I just don't want to hurt anymore...
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Registered: 06-05-2006
Thu, 11-16-2006 - 4:37pm

If it has been 8 months then you should not call him at all because more than likely he has moved on and most people do after being apart that long. I really feel if you call, you are going to hurt even more. You might consider professional help if your feelings are this strong for him after being apart for 8 months and to help with your depression. Some people might still have feelings for their ex after 8 months but the urge to call or contact them is usually gone. I am a parent and I will have to say that there are times when parents know best and they saw something with your relationship w/him that wasn't good that you were not seeing or accepting. They only want the best for you and they saw he was not good for you and sooner or later you will also. My ex dumped me 5 months ago and I have had no contact with him since then even though for a couple of months after the break up I wanted to call but I didn't. Now 5 months later, I have no desire to see him, call him, and I don't give a rat's a-- how is doing or who he is with because I realized he was not right for me and he wouldn't have been the type of person I would have wanted my daughter to have for a stepfather. Take this time and really think about the bad he brought into your relationship, I guarantee that will help a lot. Most women always think about the good they shared with their ex after the break up and that makes women want to contact their ex because they think they can get those good times back and it usually doesn't work that way.

I really wish you the best.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-16-2006 - 5:10pm
There are so many other "great highs" that you can seek in this life. Ones that are NOT self-destructive. How about picking out a dear relative or friend, and doing something to make their day brighter? That will bring you a wonderful feeling! How about a brisk walk in a beautiful public park? There is so much else on this planet. Open yourself to the variety in this life. Your brain is stuck in a one-way rut.