I'm gonna freak out

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Registered: 01-01-2007
I'm gonna freak out
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Sat, 02-10-2007 - 5:25am
Okay so I've been doing really really well and now I've had a set back.
My ex and I have been broken up since New Years and the first few wks were touch and go but I've been holding it together, not answering his calls etc. I've even been talking to a different guy, mainly as friends but ya never know.
Well the ex and I still technically live together but he doesn't stay here so it's not too bad. Until tonight.... he and his friend went out and came back to our apt drunk, they were staying here tonight I guess. I was laying in the bed and he laid down (nothing happend and I didn't care so it' wasn't like that) But I of course being a female looked at his cell phone when he passed out.... he's been dating this girl called Andrea and there were vm and txt from here all about I love you's etc.
I'm sooo mad, how can he move on like that and soooo quickly.
I guess his mom is coming up Sun and they are all going to lunch, including this new girl. Not more than 2 mths ago I was apart of his family and now she's right there.
I hate her and am gonna cry right now. This sucks.
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 11:23am

It sucks that you're going through the feelings you are, at the same time, you can begin to put the brakes on this rollercoaster anytime you'd like.

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 11:32am

A friend of mine (a guy) once told me that when two people break up the woman cries, doesn't sleep, talks to all her friends and in a few months she feels better and moves on.

Susan

"Success is building a foundation wit

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 5:33pm

Hi,


Here's a story from Pinky - food for thought -


Think of your relationship like a big house that has been demolished. What do you do next? You can't live in the house any more! So you decide to clear up the mess (emotion), brick by brick, it takes a bit of time, but you liked living in that big house so you guess it's worth the effort. Then there's a big hole in the ground that needs to be filled up again. You start this process by making new friends who are happy to help you rebuild your new big house, so it's bigger and better than it was before.


Your ex has decided that he's going to build on top of all the rubble (denial), he/she can't be bothered to take time out to clear up all the mess. So off he/she goes, building on top of the old house. He/She acknowledges that the structure is a little wobbly but he/she says that it will do for him right now.


The storm hits. Guess whose house is still standing?


Your house is built on a solid foundation. His/Her house is a big fake "paper house", yours a big strong stone structure. Now tell me who's going to have the better future? It's up to you to decide.