I'm just so lost right now...
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| Tue, 04-03-2007 - 2:42pm |
Ok, my problem could be bigger than I think , so I need your advice.
A little background: H and I have been together for 13 years, married for 5 years. For those 5 years , we tried to have a child and I have recently learned that I could die if I have a child and I need to have an hysterectomy asap.
In the end of January, my H decided that he needed to leave me for him to be able to "grow", after 2 weeks of still living in the same house and continuing to do stuff together (groceries, ect), he had changed his mind, he wanted us to give it another try. So I accepted with total willingness to make it hapen.
Let's fast forward to last week, H came home in the house in one more of his totally fouwl mood. I asked him what was wrong and pretty much got my head chewed off. So I didn't try to find out more. After he asked me to get my dad to stop by the house for him to check somehting out (h has no handyman skills)that needed fixing, I had finally gotten my dad to stop by that night. He had another fit about it and just left. I did not see him for a few hours. He since told me that he did not love me anymore but pretended to so he could keep helpin me pay for the house we bought less than 1 year ago.
I told him that if he did not love me , he needed to leave as soon as it was financially possible.
Since that day, we have been living in the same house as roommates, he pretty much lives in the basement, talks to me for very brief periods about anything and nothing. He still doesn't talk to me about his plan to leave or what ever. We are very distant or I should say that he is very distant and I am working hard at making this as easy as possible to both of us.
Because of the diagnostic happening a few weeks prior to him wanting to leave like this, I feel like it's my fault, that I'm the one who makes him so discusted to look at me that he feels like there is nothing else to do but leave.
Can anyone relate to this? Any suggestions or comments?
Please help me undertand...I'm just so lost right now.
