I'M a little confused here

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Registered: 03-09-2004
I'M a little confused here
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Thu, 12-07-2006 - 2:12pm
I'm really confused here maybe someone can give me some advice here.My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me a little over a month ago and he told me he wanted to cut all ties with me and I had asked if it was someone else and he told me his life is no longer any of my business and not to ask any of his friends about him cause we where over.He had done a 360 on me...things seemed to be fine then bam this happens and he became very mean to me.I know he has had depression problems before and was taking medication but he had stopped taking it.Anyways I did the whole calling thing the e cards etc telling him how much I still love him and miss him.Then one day he came over to drop something off and we ended up having sex and he told me he missed me and would call me well he never did and when I finally got in touch with him he seemed very angry that I called and told me it was a mistake.Well I was devastated and angry so I recently ended up going out to CA to visit my dad and possibly live.I have had no contact with him after that.Well I started getting these weird text messages and e cards saying that I was sending the e cards to him when I know I wasn't.I told him it wasn't me and dropped it,so about a week goes by with me having no contact with him,he emails me and I didn't respond cause at this point I knew he was behind all these texts and e cards.He kept emailing me saying he doesn't know what he did to make me not respond.Guess he must of forgot how he had treated me through this break up.Then he says ok this is my last email to you and if you don't respond I wont email anymore.Well I still didn't respond.3 days later he emails me saying he spoke to someone and they told him I went out to CA.Well I know I only told a couple people cause I didn't want it to get back to him.I ended up emailing him back asking who told him and he told me my work had told him and that I have been emotional this past month so I decided to go out to CA for a vacation.I asked why he even called to ask cause he had already made it clear he wanted to cut all ties and he was no longer any of my business.I didn't say that.. but I wanted to know why he called and he told me he was going to do something but he couldn't cause I wasn't working so I asked what where you going to do and he said maybe when I get back he will do it if I'm lucky.Well I'm guessing flowers but I'm not going to assume.I don't know why this is happening all of a sudden cause he had told me before he was seeing someone.Now for the past week he has been emailing me everyday even when I don't return his emails.He even asked when I was flying back and I told him I'm not sure and I'm not sure that I will even come back cause there isn't anything for me there anymore.He hasn't said that he misses me or wants me to come back.Anyone have any suggestions on what I should do or how to take all this.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 7:17pm

heathersdream...

Pianoguy thinks you should "cut the cord with your EX once and for all!"

The b/f made the choice to END things...you didn't! So why waste any more of YOUR TIME trying to analyze his thoughts? .

So the next time he attempts to call you...keep the conversation down to 30 seconds or less. Use the line..."it was your decision to break things off we me and I think it's the first smart idea you've had. NOW STOP CALLING ME!"

After you've said this...hang up the phone!

Pianoguy