I'm moving on....finally...

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Registered: 07-08-2004
I'm moving on....finally...
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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 1:07am
Hi there,

I don't know if some of you remember me from posts I put on here a few weeks ago when the guy I was with dumped me because he didn't want a "relationship right now" and was "stressed" .. anyways .. turns out he met some other chick when we were together and now he's with her ... he's told me FIVE different stories about why he dumped me and told me for five months all I was to him was a "friend with benefits" ... I honestly can't believe I even met this jerk! And he asks for me to be his friend .. I told him what a jerk and liar he is and that he doesn't deserve someone as great as me in his life at all! Maybe it sounds harsh, but you know what .. this guy put me through emotional hell for the last few weeks and doesn't even seem to care! I'm so glad this person will not be in my life at all because there is no way I'm gonna let him hurt me anymore! I'm starting to feel so much better and have realized that I don't need crap or people like that in my life at all and you know what I'm sooo ok with that. Just thought I would let everyone know that I'm doing good and that it's good in a way this happened, so I'm rid of the very wrong person for me! Have a great night! And you know what else I know .. he's going to treat the next girl exactly the way he treated me ... what a loser!

Lynne

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Registered: 07-10-2003
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 1:32am
Ah cheers...good for you! I still struggle with wanting my ex in my life in some way. I'm really sure we really had nothing in common and being with him would benefit him more than me, but it still is hard, and it's been about a month...1/3 of how long we were together originally. I sometimes lapse back into angry mode as well, thinking that I may have been used...well, he thought we were using each other, but to me, it is always more than that. I feel I need to wear a sign around my neck at times. LOL

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Registered: 09-14-2004
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 11:04am
Hi,

I know exactly how you feel...maybe it's just transitory but I hope that this feeling lasts. I went through a whole hell of alot after my breakup...we were together for four years! He lied, cheated and broke my heart. Anyways, it's been a little over 7 weeks....and I finally had that "A-ha" moment and ever since then well it's been really different for me. I'm moving forward and I'm going to bed and waking up not thinking of him....it's really beautiful. My moment came after a terrible argument with him a few weeks back....I finally was fed up of the way I felt. But more importantly, I finally realized that I did not want to marry a guy like him....that's when I was able to pull myself from the depressing hole I dropped myself into. It was hard but I firmly believe we go through hard times to come out stronger. Trust me my pain was immense...but somehow I feel really grounded now. Of course, I have moments of anger and moments of missing...but I tell myself that I can have those moments. So what I am trying to share is there really is sunshine after the rain....so for those of you going through terrible times...keep your head up and don't let anyone treat you like s***...it's not good for the soul!

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 10:30pm
That's great news, Lynne!! I'm so glad you're feeling better about everything!! And I don't think you were being too harsh to him....he had it coming after saying all that garbage to you. I'm glad you've seen the light now and know that he isn't worth the torment and that you've realized how happy you can be without him. Congratulations and keep us posted!!









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Registered: 07-08-2004
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 12:59am
Thanks! I do realize now that at 23, I gotta be true to myself and do what is good for ME. I know that a great guy is out there for me, I just haven't found him yet. I deserve to be treated with respect and loved and I'm not going to settle for crap like my ex gave to me. I ended things all together .. he can't have my friendship .. that's the last thing he deserves. I know I will be better than ok and that what is most important is me being happy. Talk to you all soon!

Lynne

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 4:20am
lynne....

read my post that i put on the board tonight....your story is the exact as mine....exact....and my point being that guys dont leave unless they have somewhere to go.....mine even told me the line about we were just really good friends that had great sex..do these guys have a book that they all read....

good riddance to them all