Im nervous, dont want to make a mistake

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Registered: 05-02-2007
Im nervous, dont want to make a mistake
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Wed, 05-09-2007 - 11:28pm

Hello!! I already put this discussion but I'm just afraid of making a mistake. Below is what I type earlier. I love him to death but he doesn't make me horny anymore, I dont get butterflies in my stomach anymore. His like my best friend, I can do anything with him but it just dont feel that way. Sad thing is he thinks things are going so good and they are but I just feel like, I'm ready to move on. I kinda want to be alone. That will brake his heart. I feel guilty, I guess, for letting him lead on. I just dont want to break up with him for no reason and catch him by surprise. Its bad when he kisses and I want to puke. I do feel guilty for leading him on but its just.... I guess, its hard to undo the damage but I believe in forgiveness, which I have but its not the same feeling. Yes, the other guy I do like him and we spoke and we both dont want a relationship now, specially if I get out of this one but he wants to date me. It first started as his hot, his my friend, and we are both attracted to each other. Now, tension is so big!!! Im starting to have feelings for him which I didn't wanted to. Ive notice b/c we had a disagreement and my feelings got hurt. And he kept apologizing but I dont know. I am also best friend with his brother but I dont know if his bro knows. I feel like I want to puke because I can't do want I want to do and I'm worried about his feelings. I just dont want to make a mistake. Most of you recommended me, to cut him loose but still.... its not easy. I have a stomachache as I am typing this because I think I know what I need to do but dont know how.... But the summer is coming and I'm really the only thing he has. Should I? And how? I've never really done a break up.... Is this a mistake? Should I find another job? Thank you for the ppl who advice me first and thank you again for your recommendation. Thank you. Below, is what I type earlier.

I don't know where else to turn. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 wonderful years. The past 8 months its been horrible, its been a roller coaster ride. Last ear, around October he began acting very unlike him... Aggressive, mean, and dry. BTW, I am 21 he is 20, I'm older by 4 months. We would always fight almost every weekend which is unlike us. I do things and schedule my days around him and he was accusing me of not loving him and that I wasn't doing enough. When I would try to see him or I wanted hang out with him, he always wanted to stay home and play games. He would make me cry all the time, in my house, work, & school. Around November for the first time ever, somebody else got my attention. A guy I've known for awhile but never pay attention because I have a boyfriend. Well he was the one who made me feel good when I came crying to work. First time I looked the other way. We kissed few times and that's been it.... problem is I never felt guilty because if my boyfriend would have never treated me like that I dont think this would have happen. My bf and I took a break for a week, and we got back together. Now, I wished I would've waited longer. The hardest thing about the break is was the fact that I didn't wanted to hurt is feelings. But after all those problems, it made me feel like there's somebody out there. I used to think we were going to do the whole nine yards but not since January when he accused me of alot things that hurt my feelings so much. The point is we are still together, things are so much better, we've spoke and on that break he realize he did messed up; his trying to fix everything and being more opened minded. Which he is.... But lately, he cums way too fast, in like 2 minutes and I can't cum. NOT KIDDING!! The longest his gone is maybe 10 minutes but thats been after I told him I can't cum. Lately, its really hard for me to orgasm. Is there something wrong with me? Should I buy some lubricant? He has never masturbated will that be the cause why he can't last more that 5 minutes at least? Problem is, I love him to death but I don't think he turns me on as much as he used to after hurting my feelings. The other guy, which we are really good friends but nothing has happened turns me on so quickly. I see him and I get wet. I feel guilty for liking somebody else when you are in a relationship but not guilty for being attractive to him. I'm just afraid of karma, because my bf been trying a lot lately.... but maybe it was too late. Please I need help. I dont know what else to do, the sex is not as intensive like it used to. Why, why does he cum so fast? and why can't i cum? I dont know where else to turn... Please give me you recommendation and advice.I greatly appreciate this. Thank you.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 4:31pm

Hi jin08,


You are going to have to be up front with him, every time he kisses you, you live a lie.