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| Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:06am |
Hi My name is Ashley and I'm new to this board! My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years, we have a two years old daughter, Cheyanne together. For the past couple of weeks he had been acting different. He wouldn't sleep in our bed, he wouldn't talk to me. Toaday he called me from work and said we needed to talk when he got home. He said he was unhappy and that he couldn't afford to support us anymore and he thought it would be best for everyone if Cheyanne and i moved back in with my mom. And just like that it was over. He means the world to me and i don't know what to do! All of a sudden i'm a single mom! I don't work. I don't know how to be a single mom. I love him so much and I know he loves me. I don't know what to do. Please, any advice?

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear about your break-up. It is scary when you think about being on your own as a single mother. But right now you have to be strong for her. You probably should get a job. Even if it is waiting tables at night so your mom can watch your daughter, or put her in daycare. Thats what i had to do. I had two jobs to keep the bills paid and keep my house when my ex left me. You just get through one day at a time. You will have to learn how to take care of yourself and you will gain so much independence. I don't know if your relationship can be salvaged or worked on, and I hope he plans on still supporting your little girl, but right now, you have to depend on you.
After my ex left, I wasn't sure if I could do it, but then I realized, I kinda took care of everything anyway. I took care of the baby, and took care of the checkbook and the house, cleaning, cooking, bath time, all that jazz. It was less to cleanup after he left and less to cook, and I knew where the money was being spent. I was better off without mine, and I'm sure thats not your situation at all. I guess I just want to share, that you can do it, I promise. But you gotta get out there and be responsible.
Hugs to your heartbreak. Maybe you can work on your relationship after some time has passed, but I was wondering why you never married after 7 years? Be strong, you've got that little one to support and teach her how to be strong and independent. There are alot of single parents out there who will support you as well!