I'm a Newbie

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-21-2007
I'm a Newbie
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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 9:29pm
It gives me so much comfort to see that there are people on here who like me, have been broken up for 6 months. For whatever reason, I thought that as time went on it would get easier to get over him but that hasn't been the case at all. For background, me and my ex were together for a year and a half. we broke up basically because we just wanted different things. He was very focused on his career and knows that he wants to get married one day, just doesn't know when. I on the other hand, enjoy my career, but put more emphasis on family and relationships. I told him that i could very easily see him, 10 years from now, still working towards achieving career goals and not married. I guess you could say that i initiated the break up because i told him he didn't have the balls to do it. and then 2 weeks later, he told me that he thought we should just be friends.
All of that is to say, because we didn't have a bad break up, it has made it that much harder to move on. I did briefly date a guy for a few months but as soon as that fizzled out i just went back to missing my ex.
It feels really good to get that off my chest! Is it pathetic of me to want to get back together with him? Does anyone have any words of wisdom or words of encouragement to help me to move on and not consciously wait on the possiblity of us getting back together?
Thanks for listening!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-14-2007
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 11:18pm

hmm. Perhaps I'm not the best person to be offering insight, but I figured I might as well give it a shot.

But no, it's not really pathetic. Everyone moves through their grief at a different pace. I had an awful break up and it hasn't made it any easier to move on. The same reconciliation scenario goes through my mind a lot too.

I think the only word of encouragement is that you aren't alone in your limbo but there are lots of other people who have moved on from similar situations and you will too..with time.

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your