I'm not in love
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|Tue, 03-19-2013 - 9:52pm|
I've been dating a guy I met online for about 4 1/2 months. He's a really good guy - smart, professional, makes a good living, responsible. He is good to me, tries to do things to help me i.e. fixes stuff in my house without me asking, etc. He is not overbearing - lets me have my space. He has good friends and I like his family.
But I don't love him. I didn't feel love for him early on, but honestly thought I could fall in love with him because he is a good guy and is attentive and thoughtful. I feel like we are more in a friendship than a relationship. He is not affectionate and has very little sex drive. This is something we have talked about and he realizes it is a problem and has tried a few things to help. Still, he doesn't really seem to want sex and we have it infrequently. We've never made out. His kisses are pecks on the lips. He once told me I was kind of cute, but otherwise hasn't complimented me.
I have tried initiating more - I took the initiative once to make out with him, but I felt like I was the only one participating and when I stopped, he stopped.
We also don't laugh much. He has sort of an odd sense of humor and sort of talks in a weird voice (hard to explain) when he is trying to be funny, but it's not funny, it's weird. I told myself it didn't matter because he's a good guy, but I like to laugh - I have a strong sense of humor, and I don't see that he does.
Am I stupid to be thinking about breaking up with this guy? Should I give it more time? He really is a good person and he is very thoughtful.
I'm not sure what to do and I don't want to string him along...