Im pissed!

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Registered: 09-07-2004
Im pissed!
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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 10:48pm

I am regreting ever talking to my ex again. Now I feel stuck. Yesterday when I saw him he was promising me all these things, such as he isn't gonna go surfing today and he is gonna go to a meeting after work. The meeting started at 7pm and he calls me at 7:20pm to give me his excuse for not going. His excuse is that he went surfing and that his friend billy wanted to go get boots. I got angry and then he says i didn't think you would really care. WHAT!?

Whatever, so now he is going to the meeting 30 minutes late, but im angry at myself for getting back in and now feeling guilty to stop communication with him. I just turned off my phone. I can tell he doesn't really want to get help, the way he talks about getting help sounds so fake. I know everyone will think then why are you talking to him, it is obvious he isnt serious about changing. I honestly don't know why i feel the need to speak with him and see him. Maybe i feel so bad about myself that I need him to make me feel better. But until he called me just now i was feeling very anxious because i knew he wasn't going to his meeting. Which starts a whole new issue, him not doing what he says he will again and manipulating me with statements like, "I didn't think you would really care." or "Im not gonna go to my meeting now because i wanna go out to eat with you."

Maybe i just forget everything that he has done bad or how i felt in that moment. I feel really scared right now. I feel bad for turning my phone off because i know it will piss him off. I told him earlier today I would go out to eat with him after his meeting. I don't know, i need help..

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: bblue351351
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 12:43am

You can't make him go to a meeting. He's going to say or do anything to justify his decision not to go.

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Registered: 08-22-2003
In reply to: bblue351351
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 2:58pm

blue - why does it matter so much to you if your ex is going surfing vs a meeting? I don't get it. I'm sorry but what you just wrote and I think the other posts you've written painting you as a controlling ex / girlfriend. Walk away from this. People rarely change. If they do, its because they want to for themselves. You are forcing your ex to change for you. At least it sounds like it.


Guys change their plans all the time, people do in general. What's the big deal? If it makes him run late or flakey, then why not bring that issue up vs nit-picking his activities?


Don't beat yourself up here either.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: bblue351351
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 5:02pm
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Registered: 03-07-2008
In reply to: bblue351351
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 6:17pm

go out to eat.


dont stress it. you dont have to get completely into the relationship like you were before. live your life. learn how to move on and still be aquainted with him at the same time. you'll soon get the strength to leave him alone completely.