Im so confused-if anyone has any advice?
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Im so confused-if anyone has any advice?
| Sun, 03-04-2007 - 12:25am |
I have been dating a guy for a couple months and lately things havent been so good. When we first met our connection was AMAZING and he was sweet, thoughtful, caring, and romantic. But then he started getting distant, and sometimes talked to me disrespectfully. I addressed these issues with him, and he said he would work on opening up, and that it just "took him some timeto open his heart". The past few weeks, i have been breaking up with him for doing something like not calling, or coming to see me when i was sick a couple weeks ago. But we always get back together because he ALWAYS has a reason for his behavior. We are both very busy, and its been a while since we've spent any quality time together. We are now "on a break" but i need to know if i'm being stupid and should just give up hope? It's just so hard to do since he was so perfect in the beginning, and i dont understand where that perfect guy went? Should I try to work things out and just give him some time to miss me, or move on?

If he was so perfect in the beginning, and at two months i'm wondering just how short that wonderful little window was, why all the issues? However he was acting "in the beginning" at just two months later, he's being a butthead and THAT'S your reality, that's who you have to deal with. Do you want him as a boyfriend the way he is TODAY?????
The honeymoon period of a relationship typically lasts anywhere from 3 months to a year or so, that's when everything's usually all rosy and everyone's (supposed to be) trying to be on their best behavior, but if he can't even keep that up for several weeks, then I'm sorry, but the "perfect" act was exactly that, an ACT.
"Making him miss you" : do you really want to put up with the Jekyll/Hyde routine? You can do better for yourself than that.
The flipside is that I think you need to get yourself straight as well. These little "breakups and makeups" over little things like not calling, not visiting, really take the credibility of your words away. You did that to yourself. Don't do it again, you should not use your relationship like bartering chips in a hostage situation.
Moving on in your situation has nothing to do with giving up hope, and everything to do wth believing in yourself and how amazing you are, regaining your power and your self-respect.
Best,
~~.: Sandra :.~~
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