:( im so sad

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Registered: 07-14-2007
:( im so sad
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 11:21pm
i miss my ex sooooo much. its only been 2.5 weeks, and i still miss him SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO SO MUCH :(

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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: mstullips
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 12:09pm
YOURE RIGHT! you are absolutly right...i know ill be ok. i had a really bad breakup 3 yrs ago, was also with the guy for a year, but he cheated, moved in with another girl and broke up with me. he was my first everythng as well, but i got over it. so i know ill be ok. i just loved my ex SO much, so much more then anyone ive ever dated so it scares me to know how long it will take :(
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Registered: 10-22-2004
In reply to: mstullips
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 1:21pm
You will be ok, and if he was the man of your dreams, you would still be together. But things happen for a reason, and you have to believe, the break up was destined to happen, for what reason, only time will tell. You will learn to love again and allow another man to touch you. Just wait, I promise....
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Registered: 04-27-2007
In reply to: mstullips
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 6:02pm

I forgot exactly where I got this, but one of the two leaders of this message board (Carrie or Sandra) had it posted in the Love & Relationships Problems section. The article is called: 8 Tips for Surviving a Break-Up. In your case, you need to focus on #6 (of course all 8 are helpful): HAVE NO FEAR-Most of the time, what we fear never comes to pass. Many times our fears are exaggerated. Don't worry.

You're worrying that it might be not just a "break", but a "break-up". You have enough going on causing you unhappiness. It's a heavy enough burden, without adding what you don't know yet. I know it's hard (IT'S ALL HARD...THAT IS WHY WHAT I'M SAYING IS HELPFUL). Work on what you know for sure: He's not there. Focus on doing what ever you need to to help you get through the next 5 minutes, then work on 10 minutes. If you go shopping, to work, balance your checkbook, whatever...and you realize, when you think of him again, that 15 minutes went by without thinking of him...praise yourself. And remember how that time felt, and what else you can do, that will take thought to accomplish. Each gap of time, no matter how short, not in pain, is a major accomplishment. #2 on that list is: FOCUS ON TODAY-Take things one step at a time, one day at a time. Temporarily limit your view, so as not to get overwhelmed.

Tina

Tina Marie

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Registered: 07-30-2007
In reply to: mstullips
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 6:12pm
Thanks Tina!
Every bit of support does make me feel better.

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