I'm so sad :(

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Registered: 04-07-2003
I'm so sad :(
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Mon, 07-26-2004 - 11:22am
My bf called me Saturday night. Begging me to give him another chance to make our relationship less one-sided. And of course, NOW he's ready to committ - AFTER I ended it.

I stayed firm and told him no. That he was already on his second chance and I can't trust what he says. He called again Sunday night and I told him the same thing.

I know its the right thing. All my friends think so too. But its so hard to end a good relationship because he won't commit. Especially when now he's saying, ok, now I'll commit. But if it's not what he really wants or is ready for... if he's just doing it so he doesn't lose me... it's not right...

So I want to do no contact. I need to do it but he has stuff at my house. Should I have him come over soon to get his stuff? Have him go when I'm not home? or wait a while before having him get it. (It's nothing important, a tv, kitchen stuff, a pair of shorts - he could wait for it).

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Registered: 07-26-2004
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 12:40pm
Dear hsheryl,

I admire your strength in standing firm on your decision. Stay with your gut feeling and don't give in...it just restarts the make-up, break-up cycle all over. Arrange to have a friend take his stuff back or to hang out at your house when he picks it up (preferably off the front porch with you not there). Face to face meetings just give them a chance to shed their big crocodile tears and play on your tender emotions. His loss, you've got better things to do with your time and your life...good luck!

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Registered: 12-06-2003
Tue, 07-27-2004 - 8:44am
We are going through the same thing right now except mine just happened last night! Give him his stuff back asap so that YOU won't have an even more difficult time later on. I was with my bf for a year and a half and I wanted to get married and he never wants to so we split. That was the only reason and it was such a perfect relationship!! Maybe that is why it feels even harder than if it was on bad terms. But he said he doesnt even want me in his life making me feel it was more than that. Let go of the pain so you can move on. It is easier said then done but you made the right move for you.