I'm so sad my heart is aching
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| Wed, 12-05-2007 - 2:39pm |
my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me on saturday it was a violent breakup and not the first one. We have been having alot of disagreements but I alwasys stuck by him never thought of leaving him. This weekend he got really angry because I had something sarcastic to say to him about how he makes me feel sometimes. He told me to get out of the car and he hit my car window with his fist and said it's over i'm tired of this s----.
I am so hurt because I have stuck by him through every bad thing he has done to me we have been to counseling etc. I called him the next day and told him in a message exactly how I felt and I told him That I understood that he's angry now but that I still love him very much. We work in the same place(hospital) and it is so hard for me to come to work everyday I try not to see him because my heart breaks, I feel like I can't live without him, he has a 6yr old son that I also love very much and will never be able to see again. I don't know how to act what to do should I call or should I just let it be. I am not afraid to call and tell him my feelings I have always done it I am always the one that gets us back together. I feel so lost!!Please help!

Hello,
In all honesty, you are in a very difficult situation. Mostly due to your attachment to someone else in his life and partially because you work together. Sorry to tell you things you already know.
First, I think you have to make the decision if YOU want to be in this relationship or not. The reason why is because usually when there is a breakup as rash and unexpected as this, one of the parties always comes back and considers the overreaction. So be prepared for the possibility that he will come back.
If he does not, just let it be. Continue to avoid him at work until you are strong enough to see him and not feel overwhelming emotion. Don't get me wrong, you will always feel something, but it begins to fade after a while.
Be strong. Maybe a second job, some new friends (good influences), school, classes for a trade you enjoy, whatever.
Remember relationships are about respect, and when they get violent, the respect is gone and is
Welcome to the board iluvumendez,
Grieving is a process. It takes time, but you will get through it.