include note with his stuff?

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Registered: 12-07-2006
include note with his stuff?
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 7:02pm

I just want to get opinions here.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months. In a moment of cleansing, I sent him a package with his stuff in it. Included was $50 pen that he had purchased to give to his dad for Christmas. So, I sent off his stuff (I threw his toothbrush and razor away - I figured he could buy new ones). And a few days later, I got a nasty text message and email telling me how I disrespected him by not including a note. What would one have said in a note? What is there to say? I still don't think I needed to send a note, but what is the protocol here?

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Registered: 09-09-2006
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 7:27pm

You did the right thing by not including a note. By writing a note to him, he may have gotten a mixed message but who really knows. Even if you put a note in there and was cold as could be (i.e. "Here's your stuff"), he probably would have complained about that too. There really isn't much to say if the relationship is over.

I broke up with my ex in October. I've had no contact with him since early November. Then in the beginning of December, I received a photograph of something he and I spoke about and then about a week ago I received a Christmas card. Needless to say, I sent him an e-mail telling him to not contact me anymore. There's just nothing more to say, the relationship is over.

Good luck and don't think about it anymore.

GH

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 4:57pm
He's being a baby. Trust me he just wanted something to be upset about, so he could call and blast you. If you had sent a note, he would have been upset by that too.


Carrie