the insanity needs to stop!

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Registered: 10-15-2005
the insanity needs to stop!
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Sun, 10-23-2005 - 8:57pm
ok i have been so up and down the last 2 weeks since my ex broke up with me....the reason being is that, he calls me everyday...and tells me he wants to get together and talk, and he talks about some day when we will be back together, etc. BUT at the same time never has the time to get together and when i try and bring up issues he cuts me off. I asked him why..he said that he just doesnt like talking about it all the time. he calls when HE wants too, he talks about things when HE wants too, everything is on his terms, and i feel so desperate to get him back i feel like i take what i can get. Like last night he called me and told me he loved me and missed me....but then today he stops talking like that!. So he said maybe tommorow we can get together, and that he would txt msg me and let me know what time he is getting out of school...but i know he will have another excuse and this craziness will just continue. i want to make him hurt emotionally and play games with him too...i am getting to the point now, that i see this is a big joke and there is no truth to what he is saying. Its not so much that i want to waste my time playing games but i want to know what i can do....to bother him as much as he has emotionally drained me. this is literally killing me, its such a rollercoaster ride. what can i do to gain back some control, i really dont want to lose him but i am starting to thinking that maybe i have no other choice.....
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Registered: 09-10-2005
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 5:02am
How 'bout a 'contact break' for 2 weeks or so ~ then after the break see if he's more cooperative. It might knock some sense into him if he can't play yo yo with your emotions for a while :) In any case some kind of contact boundary needs to be set up till he'll work with you - it takes TWO!!!! good luck
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 10:46am

How sad to feel this way..it's painful and heart gut wrenching.

To me, you are allowing him to hold your emotions hostage. He has all the power..it's in his court. Move on..live your life. If he comes back and wants you, then you can decide IF you want him back. Move on sistah..enough's enough.