ISSUE #2

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Registered: 12-03-2004
ISSUE #2
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Thu, 05-11-2006 - 11:54am

I met a guy a little over two weeks ago. He is really nice and attractive and he likes me A LOT. However I dont feel like there is enough in common for our relationship to grow together and I really dont want to hurt him or become the "bad" one in the end for knowing this now and ignoring it. Moreover I have a "sense" he may have emotional issues.

So we have seen eachother about 6 or so times. We have NOT been intimate besides for kissing. He is supposed to come over tonight but I dont think I should sustain this anymore with him. I've already met his dad - we went out on his family's boat last weekend.

My birthday is coming up in the next couple of days and Im afraid he is gonna do something for me and if I dont break it off now and Im going to feel soooooooooo bad, as if I'm using him for compoany KNOWING that our thing wont go anywhere.

HELP HELP HELP!!!

BTW - this new guy knows I saw my ex last weekend and knows exactly what happened. I had to tell him because I thought he needed to know what was going on with me. He was understanding and responded by asking me to promise not to hurt him like that again . I said I couldn't promise that but I would never intentionally do anything to hurt him.

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Registered: 12-03-2004
In reply to: isadimple
Fri, 05-12-2006 - 2:32pm

yikes, ok.

no, I dont have an email for him. but i am wavering on just not calling. like we have all been saying, its been two weeks. no promises have been made. no exclusive agreement discussed. this is why i suspect he has emotional difficulties and if I pay too much attention and make it seem any larger than it actually is, then I'm feeding into it for him. I guess I'll pick up if he calls this time but leave it alone after that.

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Registered: 12-03-2004
In reply to: isadimple
Fri, 05-12-2006 - 4:00pm

He already called and left a voicemail. I will not discuss anything with him while I am still at work.

He sounded SOOOOO sad. He said he wanted me to call him back because he wanted to talk with me. I will, after work, and remain sturdy in my position.

However, I am a little nervous about him - he sounds way to involved so early and its frankly scary. More than ever I think there is an emotional problem there.

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