It gets better..

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It gets better..
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 10:15pm
After only 4 and a half days it does get better! Oh god does it get better.I spent the whole day with friends and I never thought about him once! Not even ONCE. And im doing it again tomorrow. I never used to want to make plans with people, in case I missed talking to him or seeing him. But now, the less time I have to think about him the better. I still love him with everything I have and everything I am. But moving on is getting easier..and for anyone who thinks they will never get over it, you will. Ive only been broken up with the love of my life for four days! only FOUR DAYS! and moving on is already getting easier. I promise, It is not always hard, it does get easier. You just have to except it, and learn that it is over. And you will move on, and you will fall in love again. And someone else will make you just as happy, if not happier. And I hope that one day each and every one of you falls in love and lives happily, and never has to go through this. But for those that do go through is, be strong. And know that you are the best person you can be. And that has to be good enough for you before someone else will love you for it.

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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 11:28pm
It's been a little over 3 weeks for me. It definitely gets better. But my experience was that it wasn't continual positive progress. I'd feel pretty good a few days, and I'd think, "Hey, I'm over it!" Then BAM! I feel crappy again for a few days. But as long as the good days keep coming, and the bad days come less often, I'll be pleased.
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 11:34pm
Oh the good times keep coming. And it gets better, and than great, and then its almost like u were never hurt. Like there was no pain.And then u move on with someone else, whether its right away or weeks later or months..Maybe years..but it gets better, and u move on..and ull realize the pain helped u to grow and become something better.
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 11:36pm
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love to hear it!!!

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Sat, 01-06-2007 - 12:03am
ahahaha totally awesome!! GREAT insiration right there!! Its people like you that make sharing problems worth it:)
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Sat, 01-06-2007 - 12:18am
This is SO important to hear. Today has NOT been easy. I'm SO happy to read this! I agree that it isn't a constant progression, but this is a great start. Score one for the girls!!!
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Sat, 01-06-2007 - 12:27am
I hope the rest of your days get better, and that you heal quickly and with as little pain as possible. Noone deserves to hurt. But pain is only part of it. Learn from your mistakes, and use thier mistakes to help you learn to. You can never have enough experience. Just remember that you arent alone. And even through your hardest days there are still people out there who love you, and care for you. And will always listen, no matter how hurt you feel..I hope you feel better soon, and I will send you good wishes in hopes of making your next few days easier for you, with as little pain as possible.
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Sat, 01-06-2007 - 12:37am
Thank you so much. It's amazing how much comfort strangers can provide. I know that time will heal this, it's just hard to remember that when I'm in it.
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Sat, 01-06-2007 - 12:47am
lol, well us "strangers" will still be here in a day, in a week, in 6 months..Just to talk if you need it. Just to listen to your storys and give you comfort. We wont judge you, we will only try and help. And hopefully you will let us, noone should have to go through this pain alone. And as long as there are kind strangers here we will always be here to help.:)
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Sat, 01-06-2007 - 9:10am

It does get a little better each day and like you I too have my tough days.
My ex and I broke up the Friday before New Years and it was horrible and the worst weekend of my life. Everyone I knew had plans and it left just me...ALONE!
Since then I've taken a step back and thought about our relationship, things I like and things I didn't. After taking that time, yes I still love him with all my heart and am trying to just not think about HIM and focus on me for awhile, but I also see that I've changed and in the time I've known him an I stopped doing the things I like to do. That does not make me happy b/c I'm not who I want to be. 2007 is MY year and I'm going to start doing things just for me. 1. Join a gym to make me feel better about how I look and feel (I'm34 and no spring chicken anymore) 2. Find a class of some sort I can join (I don't care if its line dancing or scrap booking etc-- just something that will keep me busy and where I'll meet new people) 3. Find people who like to go camping and go to amusement parks b/c I do and he didn't and I just brushed that part of me aside for 4 yrs. NO MORE, it's all about me now.

It has gotten a little easier but I came home to visit my parents this weekend (7 hrs away from the apt that he and I share)and today was the first day he had to work since the holidays. I'm stupidly sad right now b/c normally I set the alarm for him everyday to go to work and I wasn't there to do it today and he didn't even call to ask me how to do it. I know it's dumb and stupid but that's the stuff I think of. Hopefully today I'll be busy and not thinking of him b/c I'll be with my parents and sister/brother in law and nephews/niece. I even have a good friend back at home here, his name is Scott,who is sort of going thru the same thing and we may get together tonight for a bit. It's just nice to know that I'm not the only one.

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Sat, 01-06-2007 - 10:12am
You are not alone, Some of our problems may not be as severe as yours. But we are all hurting, and we are all here for comfort and adive and to heal. your right, let 2007 be about YOU. You deserve it. You are probably a GREAT person and you can finally enjoy that now. Let your self be known again, and in time you may even learn that someone loves you for the real you, not the you that you were for "him". Take your time, do things YOUR way, and remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

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