It happened

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Registered: 05-23-2004
It happened
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Sun, 11-07-2004 - 6:28pm
Sorry I am new here and we just broke up on Friday night.Long story made short. We've been dating for three months. The last three weeks we have been fighting over nothing. Well, Friday was the last straw for both of us. We were bowling and he got mad b/c I didn't care around the third game. We drove to his house in silence. We got there and I asked what was his problem and he said that I didn't care about bowling and he was tired of fighting. We got in a screaming argument and I told him he didn't pay enough attnetion to me. When we would go out he would go play Golden Tee with his friends. The times were he would pay attention to me was when we were fighting. I figured out on Friday night that I would start a fight. At the time I didn't do it on purpose, but I look back and yes I did. Well I admitted that to him and he got mad. He yelled at me and told me to leave. I told him that I was not going to drive home (I was drinking) he told me he would drive me (he was drinking) I told him no. I said I would sleep on the couch and I did. I woke up at 5 and went to see if he was awake. He wasn't, I should have left, but I didn't want to believe it was over. So I woke him up. I got yelled at for that I asked him honestly if he didn't want to be with me he said he was mad and he didn't want to be with me.

I feel sad, but at the same time I don't. I was just talking to a friend on Friday and said I don't know if we should break up or not. She said go away for the weekend (which I was heading to Lousiana on Saturday anyways) and then figure it out. We live in a small town and go to the same bars. So now I feel that I have to avoid my normal hang outs b/c of him. I feel better writing this. I am not sure how I should feel, happy, sad, mad? I think I want to be with him, but I don't know. I know I shouldn't feel like that, but in one way I wanted to end it. Any insight please share.

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Registered: 10-12-2004
In reply to: megsumd
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 9:27pm
i'm really sorry. breaking up sucks.

however, it sounds like it was a good thing. constant fighting isn't good for anybody. me and my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up almost two months ago, and it's been so hard to deal with being alone. at the time, i didn't understand it, but now i do. we fought so much the last few months that it was a big deal if we didn't fight for a week. that's pretty pathetic. :-\

anyways, if i were you, i wouldn't try to pursue the relationship. find someone who WILL pay attention to you. easier said than done, but those things take time. i'm willing to wait!

as for the feeling of not being able to go to your normal hangouts, i totally empathize. i had to avoid the places that i liked to go to cause i knew he'd be there. you might have to do that for a little while, until you're over him and/or until you're ready to be around him.

i hope everything works out for you! remember, even when you feel your weakest, you are a strong person! you can get through this, and people will be here for you! i hope that i helped at least a little bit, and i hope you find true happiness <3

love, jenna

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