IS IT THE HOLIDAYS

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Registered: 05-12-2003
IS IT THE HOLIDAYS
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Sun, 12-23-2007 - 2:56pm

I really miss my EX the past few days, especially today.

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Registered: 09-28-2007
Sun, 12-23-2007 - 7:00pm

hey there,


i'm going through much of the same stuff.

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Sun, 12-23-2007 - 11:10pm

You are right showtime.

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Mon, 12-24-2007 - 1:05am

Hey Jenn-
You are SO not alone. I was just going to make a post about this but yours is clearly the same thing. I'm at almost 3 months (5 year relationship) and I don't even have any more good days or bad days but good moments and bad moments. Like today I went out for a walk along the beach and the weather was gorgeous and I even practiced flirting with a surfer and lifeguard. Not ready for a relationship, but I feel like I'm putting my training wheels on again. ha ha. I was in a really good mood, till later when I went to the laundry mat and I was just kind of sitting there alone and thought about how my ex is with his family (I'm pretty sure anyway) right now in their cozy lake home with a fire and their traditions and whatnot. I felt anger and sadness all at the same time because I'm so mad at him for ruining what I thought (and everyone around us thought) was such a good relationship. How I'm 37 and thought I had found the person I was supposed to marry. I also felt sad that I wouldn't get to snuggle with him by the fire and have him say the wonderful things he used to say to me.

Later I decided to go to a movie by myself (as usual). I tried calling some friends but they are all busy with their family things or out of town. I feel like I do make an effort to get out there, but i'm honestly frustrated that I have to do all these things by myself. Like people look at you pathetically when you say you went to do something like that by yourself. So I'm "getting out there," but honestly it felt really lonely tonight.

I like having 4 days off work in a row, but to be honest, I'm almost looking forward to getting back to work just so i can have other people hang out with. Is that sad or what? It's like I'm just sick of myself.

 

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Registered: 10-28-2005
Mon, 12-24-2007 - 12:54pm

Well I'm glad I'm not the only one who goes to the movies by herself! I know how you feel. The other bad thing is when you're surrounded by couples, not just at the movies but everywhere because you're thinking so much about relationship stuff you just notice it more. And I'll be damned if those couples don't have smug looks on their faces sometimes!

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Registered: 06-18-2007
Mon, 12-24-2007 - 1:09pm

Hi Jenn,


I just posted the same time you did! (Melancholy Holidays) and yes, I am feeling the sadness too. It's been since August for me with no contact -- breakup was in April -- but this week I've been missing the good times. It's funny how we seem to miss them, and forget the bad times and how awful we felt. I keep trying to remind myself of all the rotten things he did -- cheating, lying and basically ruining what I thought was finally the chance to have a great relationship. It's so disappointing.


I am trying to find ways to beat the blues -- made some plans with gf's to go to the movies on the weekend, and have a guy friend that I'm going to go skating with at some point. I think that's the key -- keep busy and soon it will be the new year. I have no plans for new years either, so I think I'm thinking about that aloneness I'm going to have to deal with. I'm not looking forward to New year's eve at all.

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Mon, 12-24-2007 - 1:25pm

It's good to know we are not alone.