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| Mon, 10-31-2005 - 5:47am |
Why does it hurt soooo much. I just dont know how to stop it from hurting, I am not as strong as I put on. There was soo much love. Do they ever come back?

Oh my..it does hurt..and you are not alone. Think about the many great songs, poems and books penned in the midst of this pain and angst. We do grow from this believe it or not. How you end it also helps you move on.
I love this:
On our journey, we meet many souls with whom we interact, exchange energy, in a way that enhances our growth and theirs. We learn lessons together. We break bread. We share love. But there often comes a time to say good~bye. A good-bye can come suddenly, unexpectedly, without much warning. Or a good-bye can be expected, planned on, and take a while to work out. The length of time doesn't matter. What matters is how we handle our good-byes. We can do it with our hearts open, saying thank you for all we've learned. Or we can close our hearts and bitterly say we've lost again.
We can say good-bye with an attitude of trust, faith, and love, believing our hearts led us together, for the time we were close, to celebrate life and further our journeys. Or we can do it with harsh judgment, asking what's wrong with us that our paths didn't let us stay together. We can say good-bye with our hearts open, feeling our sadness, our longing, and our joy. Or we can say good-bye with emotions walled off, saying that's just the way life is. Sometimes, it's time to say good-bye. We can't always choose timing, but we can choose the words of our heart.
And sometimes it's not good-bye. It's till we meet again.
Melody Beatty Journey to the Heart.
Egypt,
I know, breaking up can be so painful and hard, it just seems unfair.
Hello Egypt,
I know your pain, and I felt it about one year ago. It is almost heart wrenching, and you sometimes actually feel the pain in your heart. I know I did, and it was breaking. BUT WITH TIME, it gets better. I can promise you that, just give yourself time. I know you want to take a pill, and feel better, but actually breakups don't work like that. You have to go thru this terrible heartache, to get better. I know it sounds bad, but think of the people who go thru chemo-therapy to get rid of cancer. It can be painful, and some patients lose there hair, and get very sick. But the chemo keeps them alive. They have to endure it, in order to continue living. This might not me a good example, but suffering,and going thru agonizing pain will help you in the end. You don't see the end now, because you can't look far ahead at this point. The beginning of the heartache is always the hardiest. If you listen to me, and try to take in what I'm saying too you, I promise you, it will get better. Go thru the emotions, and cry. Get it all out, and talk to friends. But one thing I learned, don't burn your friends ears about the break-up. They will understand what your going thru, but sometimes, we put our friends in the emotional turmoil, and it can ruin friendships. I read a book called, "It's Called A Break-Up, because it's Broken", written by the author of "He's Just Not That Into You". And it has some good points. It's for the people who's break-up is fresh. Even though it has been one year for me, I thought it would be interesting to read.
Even though, it has been one year, I still have bad days. Yes, I still have bad days. I loved my guy dearly, and I still do, but I've accepted, he's not right for me. I have dated, so my life didn't get stuck in the emotional drama, but I haven't met my "REAL MAN" yet. He's out there, going thru the same drama, and were both just waiting to meet one another. I have moved on somewhat, but not to the point, where I don't think of the ex. I still think of him, and it's ok, at least for me. He has moved on, and I haven't yet, and I'm going in the pace that's right for me. You are doing the same thing. You might be thru with this next month, or maybe next year, but when your done with it all, you are done, and nothing will be in your way. You will be so strong after all of this, I believe that for me as well. Take care of yourself, and one more thing, do your best to stay out of contact with the ex. It is the only way to heal properly. It will be hard, but trust me, if you stay in contact, you will start the pain over. Keep us posted.