It Hurts Twice as Hard when you break NC

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Registered: 03-09-2007
It Hurts Twice as Hard when you break NC
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Mon, 12-10-2007 - 11:12am

I haven't posted to this board in a while. I was here back in March after trying to end a worldwind 7...mth relationship with a man who had just told me he was still 'dating' others. It had been hard because he was the most caring, attentive and sincere person I'd ever met. I found out that he was intimate with another woman who also thought she was his girlfriend from cards and other things I had

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Registered: 09-15-2005
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 12:06pm
Good for you. Forgive me for saying this, but he sounds sleazy. I hope you find someone more deserving of you as soon as you are ready.
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Registered: 10-28-2005
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 12:10pm

Me too hon. I'm on day 1 of no contact because the guy I have been

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Registered: 03-09-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 12:29pm

Pixchan he's been called many things by others I've talked to about this and yeah sleazy is one of the more desirable ones. And thanks...I'll make myself get past this one.


Baalpriestess I'm with you...the excuse mine used for getting some from his other friend was that he was "in a reflective mood" when I asked whether he wanted us to get together. And boy did he sound reflective..sad almost...I felt sorry for him asking whether his folks was okay etc., Told him to call me if he needed to talk...never heard back from him that night (found out he was shacking up that night)


What pulled me in was the sheer intensity to our relationship..not overwhelming but just a guy who cared and would drop everything to help me move etc., he'd wake up in the middle of the night, get dressed..go buy me cold meds..rub my stomach, pop my pimples...hold hands to pray...you name it..he did it all.


Had I not read Steven Carter's books I wouldn't have made sense of the whole thing. Boy is it hard to separate the emotions and be real with ourselvess...


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 4:06pm

Welcome back minismall,


I hope you story helps others.

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Registered: 11-23-2007
Mon, 12-10-2007 - 4:53pm

Hang in there! I'm with you!

xxx

Emilia