It hurts!!!!Don't know what to think

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Registered: 05-10-2005
It hurts!!!!Don't know what to think
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Wed, 06-01-2005 - 5:14am
I recently broke up with my bf of three years (15 days ago). The spark was gonne and we decided to stay friends. But it hurts so much!!! If he made the slightest move I would get back with him propably but he won't. The thing is that's just the way he was in our relationship too. He didn't bother to do sth to save us. It was always me trying and doing things. I know it's propably for the best but it hurts sooo much!I can't help wondering should I get back with him?
Sometimes I worry I won't find something like that again in my life (because apart from the above we were great together, chemistry and all)
And then again I wonder, is it always gonna be like this, do relationships fade out anyway??? (but if it is so how can my parents look at each other the way they do after 30 years of marriage?)
I'm in so much pain right now...
Thanks for hearing me out!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 12:51pm

Well give yourself a break. It hasn't been that long and you are going to need time to readjust and learn how to live without this person in your life. So give yourself that time. I lived with my ex and it has been a HUGE readjustment for me (sleeping alone, eating alone, watching tv alone) It sucks. But once you get used to him not being a factor in your day-to-day life, perhaps you will have a better perspective.

I'm in the trenches with ya! Lots of hugs.

-adc

-almostdoesntcount

 

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 11:33pm
I know it's hard to end a relationship cold turkey...but I think if you would cut contact with him....once the pain subsided you would be able to think more clearly.
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Registered: 05-10-2005
Sat, 06-04-2005 - 10:22am
Thanks a lot for your replies!
I know I should give me time to heal, but although I know it's all for the best sometimes I just can't help it, these thoughts just enter my mind...
Thanks for the support...