it is over

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Registered: 05-23-2005
it is over
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Fri, 04-21-2006 - 2:34pm
Well my last great relationship of just under two years is over. He is bringing the key to my apt. back today. ( I never had his key). I can't stop thinking about him. Easter Sunday was the last day we spent together. If I new it would be the last time we would be together I would have kissed him more and held him tighter. I put up a good front for him. I put his clothes in a bag and hung it on the dorknob like I don't care. (Psycho moment I smelled them first to see if the smelled like his cologne.)He want to see other women. I think he already has her in mind. I can't stop crying. I hurt so bad. It takes 21 days to get over a habit. I wish I did not still love him. jessica
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Registered: 04-21-2006
In reply to: puffgirl1
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 5:04pm

Its natural to think of things we could have done, but if someone is intent on ending it, then they will do, nothing you could have done. It'll be like that in your mind for a while - the what if's, its the brain's way of piecing it together.

You hinted that there was someone else involved. If so, then for your own sanity don't try to contact him, as it will only hurt you seeing him with someone else... and you gotta keep that dignity and get healing!

I am going through it too, the sad betrayal, lies and deceit and its nearly been a month.. its hard! But everyone here is fantastic - we are all going through it too - and people do get through this, so hold on! Vent, and let it out here, in the safety of these message boards!

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Registered: 05-23-2005
In reply to: puffgirl1
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 9:35am
Some one else involved! I got a three ring circus going on here. a husband, and ex-affair and a 7 month old baby from the affair. The affair just ended last week so I am still all over the place with my emotions, but i will get it together thanks for the support.
jessica
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Registered: 04-21-2006
In reply to: puffgirl1
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 12:09pm
((hugs)) why do people play with us so much?? I hope everything is ok, what is happening with your emotions at the moment? Be strong and resolved like we all are, its a minefield I know xxx
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Registered: 04-24-2006
In reply to: puffgirl1
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 1:17pm
Hi, I've been there. You have to cry, cry, cry, and then stop. breathe. cry some more. You have to let it out so that you can begin the healing process of letting go. Remove all the things around you that remind you of him. Change his name in your phone to something else like heartbreaker or don't answer. Do not call him. when you begin to think about him, call a friend. it's okay to read old cards, letters, etc. But you have to let yourself heal a little first. Write a letter to yourself. what are your goals? what did you get from the relationship? Where do you stand emotionally? God will never give you more than you can bear. You have to put it into his hands. I bet if you don't call him, he will be chasing you in a few days.