is it over for good?

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Registered: 10-26-2006
is it over for good?
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Thu, 10-26-2006 - 6:57pm
I recently went to go visit my boyfriend of a few weeks. I got there and everything was going fine. We went to dinner and hung out with all his friends but then later that night he started saying things like he has never felt this way about a girl before and he could see us getting married. I got freaked out and ended up leaving his place to go stay with a friend. He did not talk to me for a few days and when he finally did he was mad. I apologized so many times and I think I might have done all I can do. Now he is saying that he doesn't know what he wants and if he wants to try it again. I realize I made a huge mistake and I want him back. He was such a sweet guy and I haven't really been in a good, healthy relationship before and I think that may be why I freaked out. What do you think I should do to get him back?
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Registered: 09-26-2006
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 7:50pm
If he really wants you back like he said, he'll take you.
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 12:28am

I'm not sure I would define a "healthy relationship" as one where someone says they can see themselves getting married to you after dating only a few weeks.

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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 2:03am
THis guy obviously has strong feelimgs for you. It was completely normal for you to panic, because you are only at the beginning of your relationship. Don't beat yourself up for that. But you say that he told you this "later that night". My personal, and others friends, experience with guys is that sometimes when he is with his friends and has drank a bit, he will start to say odd things, that he may not have said earlier in the day.
He seems pretty confused too. I think the best you can do is let his know you'll be there once he's decided and then GIVE HIM ROOM.I think he needs a 'time out' to think things through. And stop apologizing again and again, you might scare him off. If you really love him, and he really loves you like he says, then things will happen naturally and with luck you'll be back together.
Hope this helps, but talk this advice for what it's worth, I am in the middle of a break up because I loved my guy too much. Let us know what happens, ok?
Camille