Is it time to break up?
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|Thu, 04-25-2013 - 6:17pm|
So I have posted on here a couple of times in the past about my relatinship and the problems we have been having. A quick summary for everyone....I am 29, he is 32. I have a son (from a previous relationship), that is 7. We all live together. We have been together for almost 2 years. We have had issues since the beginning but b/c i loved him, I thought that we could make it and work thru them. For example, I am very affectionate, he is not at all. I am positive and a "go getter", he is kind of lazy and negative. I am going to school and working full time to better our future, he works a job he hates but won't even attempt to get a new one. Don't get me wrong, he has his positive traits and I love him very much. Also, my son adores him and loves him as well (his father is not in the picture). However, things just aren't working. A couple of weeks ago we decided that we will give it until our lease is up (at the end of this month) and then decide what to do. We had another huge fight a couple of days later and now he has been really trying to change and be better. However, I am still just not feeling it. I love him and want to be with him, so why am I not happy? I feel like everything he does annoys me. His attitude, outlook on life and especially his huge problem of fear of change. I am also afraid that if we resign our lease and agree to work on it, that his "changing" will only last a couple of weeks and then things will go back to how they were.
So I guess my question is this. How do I now it is time to break it off? Are we just going thru a rough patch? I am SO afraid of breaking it off then realizing that I made a mistake. How do you know?!?!?!?!?