Is it verbal abuse or just a bad temper?
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Is it verbal abuse or just a bad temper?
| Mon, 12-31-2007 - 10:42am |
I would really appreciate honest advice on this..especially from those who have experience.
My boyfriend is a sweet, caring guy 95 percent of the time. We've been together for over a year and we are planning to move in together.
But when we argue he flips out.
Now, I argue too..I yell about the problem at hand. But he takes it to an entirely different level.
He screams and shouts insults at me..even bringing up insecurities I have confided in him about. Then he dumps me.
He always apologizes

IMO, he has an issue that will only worsen if you should marry him.
I've been around exactly what you describe, and when more stresses are added (finances, kids, etc...) what happens infrequently, usually takes a turn to more frequent with time- unless he sees someone about his issues.
From what you have posted, my guess is this is the red flag you need to make a decision for both your futures. He either gets help or you need to think about long term reprecussions with this behavior. The fact you are questioning it should tell you that you know something is not right
Hi,
I think it is verbal abuse for now, and will turn into something ugly later.
Passive aggressive behaviour could be very dangous.
Thanks for the advice.
We have now officially broken up. I can't believe it but after calling me all those names and being such a jerk he has the nerve to say it's MY fault!
As he says, I "push his buttons" to the point he blows up.
Amazingly, I am still devestated over the break-up.
Emotions are funny that way I guess.
officially broken up or another dump round?
If it's another dump cycle, my opinion would be not to get back together until he's gone to anger management or counselling of some sort. My dad is completely bonkers the same way. So much that we had him arrested one day and charged for assult. Anyways, one anger management course and a whole lot of counselling later, he's unrecognizable. It's a freaking miracle.
all the best
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