Its always a blessing in disguise

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Registered: 11-09-2006
Its always a blessing in disguise
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Fri, 01-12-2007 - 3:59pm

you may feel like crap but remember he did you a favor.
why would you want to be with someone who didnt want you
someone who didnt realize your talent, beauty or grace
or someone who made you feel bad about yourself ever

say screw it and move on....because while it hurts shedding tears wont make things better....making positive changes will. and realizing that if your crying or hung up on your ex, you might have your eyes closed when Mr Right does walk by.

keep your eyes open

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2006
Fri, 01-12-2007 - 8:49pm

Can you stay at my place until the pain goes away?

:)

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2006
Sat, 01-13-2007 - 11:59am

You are correct, most of the time it is a blessing in disguise. The problem is that we don't know it right away and sometimes it takes months to see it. After the pain subsides or goes away, we then realize it was a blessing.

My painful breakup happened over 6 months ago and it took 5 months to realize it was for the best. Another thought is that most breakups are a learning lesson and we only get stronger from them no matter how painful they are. My breakup was very painful and I am much stronger and if a man ever breaks my daughter's heart like my ex broke mine, I can tell her "I know what you are going through because I have been through this pain and I am here to help you and get you through this". Most heartbroken women would rather hear that instead of "Oh, just get over him and find someone else".

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Sat, 01-13-2007 - 12:07pm

*laugh out loud*

So... my mother loves me tremendously. However, that was what she said! Get over him, he wasn't right for you.

I believe that the greatest gift I gained through my relationship with C. was friendship. He gave me that gift well before our first date. I only hope that me moving on with my life will not destroy the chance of someday reconciling what we did have. And, by that I mean the friendship.

Friends on both sides keep asking us... will you ever see each other again? The answer for me is - I don't know. His answer is - yes.

I'm feeling kind of bratty today... I WANT to date again. Not today. Not next week. Nothing serious, or relationship intended... But, I want to feel like I am ready before I do that. I WILL move on with my life.

I have a lot of love inside of me, and I prefer to share it. Unfortunately, I had to learn the hard way that I'm not always the best at telling people what is in my heart. I am going to try that for a while and see how it fits.

Yes, the end of this relationship was and is SO sad for me... I thought I was going to marry this man and spend my life with him... I had plans and dreams and hopes... and here he just thought I didn't care. I didn't tell him what it meant to me. And he left because of it. I owe him a thank you some day... for giving the gift of freedom and growth.