IT'S BEEN 3 WEEKS ,I Want to call him !!

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Registered: 01-04-2006
IT'S BEEN 3 WEEKS ,I Want to call him !!
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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 11:29pm
The man that I was dating was a marine we had a long distance relationship he lived in N.C and I lived in NYC we would visit each other once in a while an we would talk on the phone for hours everything was ok until he went to Iraq while he was there he would tell me all the things that we were going to do when he got home. When he came home he did not call me for 2 weeks until I finally got his new number from his mother. He said that the reason that he did not call is because he felt that I gave him an attitude. He is so suborned and he said that if I did not call him he would never have called me. This hurt my feelings because I have been with him for almost two years and I waited for him for 9 months while he was in Iraq and he would leave me over something as stupid and an attitude. I have not seen him in 10 months and he had come to NYC 3 times since he had been home and not once did he call me or stop by to visit. Aright so I gave in and called him and things I thought were good it had been 4 months and not too many problems. So he calls one day and tells me that he is coming home to NYC with his friend and that they wanted to stay with me in my apartment. I agreed and they ended up going to his sister’s house. The next day I called him to see when he was coming to see me he said that he did not know. To make a long story short he never came to see me. I called him and said that if he did not come and see me then the relationship would be over. He said that he was not coming. he did not argue with me ask me why I would leave him he simply said "man alright" well its been 3 weeks and I miss him so much I want to call him and give in cause I don’t like the way that I feel but everyone of my friends are telling me that I can do better and that I have to take a stand or else he is always going to walk over me. I just want him back but how can I do it without giving in?? PLEASE HELP ME ITS KILLING ME INSIDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Registered: 07-16-2003
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 12:19am

I am sorry sweetie!! The only thing I can tell you is that the guy that you knew is gone. This could be because of Iraq, it could be because he has been away for a while and just wants to have no obligations, it could be for any number of reasons. Just know that if you contact him it will lead to hurt on your part. He will either string you along or he will tell you something you don't want to hear. For whatever reason he needs to be on his own and the best thing you can do for the both of you is to let it be. Trust me when I tell you that there are no magic words to open up someone's eyes.
He has broken up with you, he just didn't have to gonads to be honest about it. Read enough posts on this board and you will find that this is a very common situation. Please try your best to move forward. One day you will look back on this as a life experience and realize it was a mere building block in your great life.

Lois

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Registered: 09-22-2005
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 2:03pm

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, what he did to you is horrible.

Nikki
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Registered: 08-30-2005
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 7:08pm
listen to your intuition. only u know whats best for you, i would say that u should leave,because its obvious he's not taking ur feelings into consideration. and he has no type of remorse over the terrible things he does to you. see things for what they really are and what the always have been. love live life.
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Registered: 01-04-2006
Fri, 01-06-2006 - 2:53pm
I want to thank everone so much for thier insperation during such a hard time. this website is amazing!! I'm still going strong with the NC rule. I did not know that this was a real rule i just thought that it was something that people told you to do. but i'm still holding my head up high. once again thank you ..... please keep the comments comming
~cocodelight83~
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 01-06-2006 - 9:33pm
Hells bells, it makes no sense sometimes who people change but he has and this man is NOT treating you nearly the way you should be treated. You deserve a man that chases you to the ends of the earth...who comes to NYC to see you and adore you. FORGET THIS MAN..he is not deserving of your time.