It's been a month...and I'm moving on...

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Registered: 07-08-2004
It's been a month...and I'm moving on...
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Mon, 11-15-2004 - 11:30pm
Hey everyone,

I have been posting on this board for a little over a month (right around the time my ex broke up with me) .. I just wanted to say hello and let you all know how I'm doing. It's been over a month since he dumped me (5 different reasons WHY we broke up!!!) and I'm happy to say I'm starting to be happy again. I know I won't be over him for a bit, but the situation and relationship I am. I told him about 10 days ago (last time I talked to him) we could never be friends and I'm happy to say I have stuck to that and not talked to him or had any contact. Is it wrong that I can never forgive him ever? I mean, the hurt and damage he caused me .. I just feel that he doesn't deserve forgiveness. At the same time, I'm not living my life bitter and angry, I'm actually starting to not care at all. It's funny how you can love someone and care about them so much and then after they hurt you beyhond believe you start to feel nothing towards them. I'm only 23 and I know there are so many more men out there for me .. I just wonder sometimes - is it true that after going through all these heartaches, I really will meet a great guy and know when I have met someone who is worth it? Thanks again! Take care all.

Lynne

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Registered: 11-16-2004
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 10:13am
hey Lynne, i understand completely, but i find it so so hard not to contact them, i usually end up texting them....its very hard...I think you are a very brave and strong lady, well done!!

rach xx

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 1:06pm

Thanks Rach! I will admit somedays I just think about the summer we had together and wish it could have kept being that great .. but I have to realize that he's not the right person for me and the right person won't treat me like crap! Keep in touch!

Lynne

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Tue, 11-16-2004 - 3:41pm
DON'T CONTACT HIM! Trust me! it's been over 3 months since I have broken up with the EX and we have not talked once! thank god! i would have been back at square one too many times! there's been a few close calls like last night, when I went to the mall and saw his car parked right by mine, but I try and Avoid going places i know he goes or being in his area! Trust me it's a lot better without them in your life! and i think you know that! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!