its been a month,havent heard from him..

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Registered: 01-29-2005
its been a month,havent heard from him..
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 6:44pm

We were friends for 3 months, then we went out for a month. Was great..we messed around but didnt have sex.It was really great though, he was so sweet and kind and cute and smart! Ok, its been A MONTH and he hasnt called me. I have heard nothing from him. No emal, no text no phone call. All we had was each other cell numbers. He had just graduated nursing school (I'm a senior in it now) and he had bills galore.........one of which was his phone bill (around 300 dollars) and he told me shortly before I last heard from him that it was gonna get cut off cuz he couldnt pay his bill til he started working ( which would be for three weeks at the time) but he has been working for about 2 or 3 weeks now maybe 4, and he hasnt called. I tried to call his phone and its still off plus a girl I know who works with him says it is..........he always asks to borrow hers. I feel like if he wanted to call em he wouldve, one way or another but he did. I'm confused and hurt........he wasnt seeing anyone else at the time, neither was I. I am trying to move forward and stay busy but I liked him alot. I'm so hurt..but I have to accept things. My question is why did he hurt me like this? I'm the smartest in my class, I'm pretty, and sweet, the whole girl next door things............we had good chemistry and all..........he was so sweet and we were taking it slow.........we agreed we were more than friends but we wanted to take it slow. My girlfriends assure me it wasnt my fault that he dissapeared and that any guy would be lucky to have me........I feel like crap. I just wish he would be honest with me.........if he met someone else or whatever but not calling me is hurtful and immature.Please help! I am still at the top of my class and taking care of my appearance and being active with my friends..........and all but I'm hurt. But I'm being strong............please help me! Why did he do this? We were doing so well.......he was driving an hour to see me and everythinge...........we were doing so well. Its really been a month now...........my question is why would a guy just not call a girl anymore........given my situation and things were good and all.............he could have had the decency to call me and break up with me or whatever but he didnt. He just never called me again! I'm still hurt and keep asking whats wrong with me but I am feeling a bit better, spending more time on my hair and clothes and shopping and just making myself look downright pretty and feeling better.............this is hard! My friends insist it wasnt me. I thought I would be a good asset to a guy, I'm smart, petite but leggy, exotic kind of girl next door cute, funny, sensitive, creative, sexy..........intelligent. God I feel like so awful. I was myself, I put my best foot forward.I feel like I wasnt good enough.Any insight or inspiration is appreciated. Please dont be harsh with me......its tough getting your heart broken but I do want the truth even if it is harsh just please be sensitive. I know its over even though he hasnt said a thing but its been a month.........gosh. I liked him alot.

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 10:58pm
Dear, your friends are right, it's not you. You didn't do anything wrong or are abnormal. It is possible that he was just flirting with you and was/is not interested in pursuing more than that. You were both in the same nursing school, fooled around and shared a good time. You were at the time single and available so you got together. You thought more of the friendship than he did. In fact, you were never a couple, you were more than friends but never labeled it. Neither had the obligation or responsability to the other. For him, it was perfectly normal to pick up and leave without notice. If he wanted to call you, he'd have already. Maybe he's met someone at his new job and is pursuing her. The healthy approach for you is to move on.
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 10:13pm
I'm sorry to hear about what happened between you and this guy...I know this had heart-wrenching for you!!
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