It's not you, it's me - somebody explain
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It's not you, it's me - somebody explain
| Sat, 10-21-2006 - 1:12pm |
Hi'all,
Somebody explain to me this "It's not you, it's me" line. When breaking up I asked my ex to tell me, some of the mistakes that I made in the relationship so that I don't repeat them in my next one and his answer was that he has told me many times that it's not me it's him and that however, I rephrase the question the answer is still the same. I had said earlier that it takes two to make a fight and I want to know my part in it to move on.
Thanks
Somebody explain to me this "It's not you, it's me" line. When breaking up I asked my ex to tell me, some of the mistakes that I made in the relationship so that I don't repeat them in my next one and his answer was that he has told me many times that it's not me it's him and that however, I rephrase the question the answer is still the same. I had said earlier that it takes two to make a fight and I want to know my part in it to move on.
Thanks

I would say that more often than not, it's just a line people use when breaking up to avoid hurting someone's feelings.
However, if he is sincere, then he probably thinks that you haven't done anything "wrong", per se, but rather the two of you are not compatible, not right for each other.
I think that for your peace of mind and to be able to move on, I would just assume it's the latter and stop asking him (or having any contact with him, for that matter).
Sheri
GL
Hey, I'm sorry you're hurt.
Hi there, I'm sorry you are hurt.
I got the exact same line from my ex. However, he went a little further to tell me that I am everything he ever wants in a girl and a relationship, but he just can't figure out why he was unhappy. That sealed the deal for me, and made me believe 100% that it was his problem, not mine.
You are just great the way you are, so don't think for one moment that you could have prevented this by doing something different!
Hi'all,
Thank you for your responses they helped. In end I have mentally accepted that it's over. I can rest my case knowing that I gave this relationship my 100% but it just wasn't meant to be. I will lie low for a while (I don't feel like a relationship right now) maybe someday I will find the one that was meant for me. One thing I'm sure of though is that I won't be contacting him.
Thanks