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| Sun, 07-31-2005 - 5:08pm |
My girl friend of 3 years moved out last Wed but before leaving she said that she thought she was making a big mistake then she told me she loved me and all the time the waterworks where going. Now its Sunday and I found out that shes been seeing another man.
I asked her several times over the past weeks well she was planning to leave if there was another man and every time she said no boy did I get fooled. For the past 4 weeks that how long i have known she was leaving I did everything possible to change her mind, flowers, cards even a nice Birthday gift and she accepted them all. And then the very next day after leaving she was with him.
At first I was hurt then angry and I'm still both of those. What really gets to me is that she put me through this for the last 4 weeks. 4 weeks of hell and all that time she kept telling me she loved me and that all was not lost. Most of what I read here talks about guys doing it to woman well ladys guys haven't cornered the market we all have it in us. I think guys are just to macho to admit they can be hurt to.
Strange as it might sound I will miss her and as pissed off as I am part of me still loves her. Tomorrow is a new day I'm not going to to anything stupid life is to damn short for that. So I'll just have to get on with my short life.
I asked her several times over the past weeks well she was planning to leave if there was another man and every time she said no boy did I get fooled. For the past 4 weeks that how long i have known she was leaving I did everything possible to change her mind, flowers, cards even a nice Birthday gift and she accepted them all. And then the very next day after leaving she was with him.
At first I was hurt then angry and I'm still both of those. What really gets to me is that she put me through this for the last 4 weeks. 4 weeks of hell and all that time she kept telling me she loved me and that all was not lost. Most of what I read here talks about guys doing it to woman well ladys guys haven't cornered the market we all have it in us. I think guys are just to macho to admit they can be hurt to.
Strange as it might sound I will miss her and as pissed off as I am part of me still loves her. Tomorrow is a new day I'm not going to to anything stupid life is to damn short for that. So I'll just have to get on with my short life.

Yes, women can be hurtful to. Just know it will take time to move on. Just take care of yourself, keep yourself busy.
I was in a relationship for three years to. Just ended three wers ago. I am hurt, and even though you are mad at that person, you ask yourself what you did wrong. You wonder if there is anything you can do to change their mind. It's in your best interest to spend time with friends and family. Do things for yourself and keep yourself busy. Time will heal your pain and anger. Just don't think that every girl is like that. I know, a lot of them are, but there are women out there that are looking for someone like you, and will make you happy.
You didn't deserve this, but be glad she left. She could have stayed with you longer and tried to hide this. She at least left, which in your case is the best thing.
You don't deserve a cheating girlfriend.
Thanks for all the kind words of support its been just over 3 days since I posted my message my anger is under control and the pain well that comes and goes. I haven't had any contact with the X even tho I send her several email asking her to call or write so we could arrange for her to get the rest of her things. Not that the things she left behind cause me any pain I just want to get things sorted out before I move into my own house at the 1st of the month
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digitalsolstice your right keeping busy does help and up until the past weeks I forgot just how important friends and family where, one friend in particular I'm not sure that I would have been able to get through some of this with out him. He called in the morning and knew something was wrong and dropped what he was doing and came right over. I don;t think any of us wish pain on anyone but I realize now that It anything ever happens to a friend I'm going to be there for them.
On the bright side the Sunday that I found out I was just on my way back to the city when my phone rang, its was a lady that I had meet about a week before and she called to see if I wanted to join her for a drink and I thought about it for a minute and accepted. The next day when I had time to think more it came to me that that was the past thing that could have happened it was a great ego booster I guess I'm just lucky! And not to worry I won't be rushing into another realtionship any time soon.
Thanks again guys with a kind word and the support of others there is nothing that we won't be able to survive.
R