Its over..

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Registered: 10-18-2004
Its over..
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 9:19am

Things seem to change with the blink of an eye for me. Friday night things were as they have been since we met then on Sunday he comes over and says he just doesn't see himself falling in love with me. Then he continues blah blah blah and says I was dating you because I was lonely and wanted somebody. I feel stupid. I actually thought he liked me. I'll tell you one thing; I'm glad I am not dating him.

His tears meant nothing to me. I just know that I'm not calling, not going to do anything for him ever again. Personally his thoughts of wanting to be friends just isn't the best "resolution" for me.

I'm more broken cause he was living a lie. I was a convience. I was a fill in for himself.

Well today I'm just going to heal myself. And I'm just glad the relationship didn't last any longer because I'd hate to think I was just a convience for someone to make them not lonely.

Okay I ranted. Thanks for allowing me to do so.

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Registered: 03-07-2004
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 10:21am

It's sickening that there are people lacking that much character out in the world isn't it.

There's a particular song by Avril Lavigne called My Happy Ending that you may find helpful in your healing process, if you need a theme song or something to put a smile on your face.

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Registered: 10-17-2004
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 7:32pm

Wow....it sounds a lot like my situation, except I was the one to break things off because after 6 months he had no idea what his feelings for me were.

I wonder how long he would have coasted along, not really feeling anything for me if I hadn't talked to him and suggested time apart to think, which I guess by most people's translation means we're through. I sincerely meant to take time to think about things, but after a day or so I realized that we couldn never be together again unless he had some sort of epiphany about his feelings for me. I did 95% of the work in the relationship and although I knew I couldn't 'change' him, I thought over time his feelings could grow and he would start to initiate more. The ONLY thing he ever iniitiated was affection, not even sex, but affection and calling me 'hon' or 'honey'.....I find that ironic. If you really wasn't 'into me' (to coin a now popular phrase) and didn't initiate our getting together, dates, sex, etc....why in the world would he be initiating affection at other times....makes no sense at all.

He readily admits he is confused and, also, readily admits he needs counseling (because of prior horrible relationships) but I can't do it anymore.

Case in point. It's been 3 weeks and I haven't heard a word from him. The hard part of the whole thing is that we never had a fight and never argued.....we got along very well. He honestly said that there was not one thing about me that bothered him....

I just wish I had a definite answer....talking to him just confused me more.