Jealous? Don't seem to be moving on
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| Sat, 11-04-2006 - 1:05pm |
I saw my ex flirting with another girl at school and was surprised at how upset I was. It's been FOUR MONTHS since we broke up. He was my first real relationship and we had to end it after a few months because I wasn't happy and he couldn't be in a relationship (he broke up with a longterm gf soon before we started dating). I kept NC for a few weeks and then we gradually started talking abit more as time went on (we go to school together and have all the same friends). I have a list of reasons why he's not the right guy for me... but it's hard to remind myself of those things when we hang out alot (in a group). I find myself having the need to call and talk to him all the time again. For months I was on a rollercoaster ride of being completely fine without him and then randomly missing him even tho I know we can't be together. Why is it not getting easier? If anything, I was doing better soon after we broke up than now...
I know if I never had to see him, I'd be doing much much better. What do I now and I'm disapointed in myself for still having these feelings. Why does the good always seem to outweigh the bad? I feel weak for not being "over it".
What do I do?
Feeling so sad.....

I think you need to have a longer period of no or at least minimal contact in order to get over someone. It sounds like you tried to go to being friends too soon. If you're not ok with him being with someone else, you're not ready to be friends.
Sheri