just broken up

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Registered: 06-15-2005
just broken up
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Wed, 06-15-2005 - 7:33pm
Hiya,
iv just had a very very painfull breakup. i have known him for 8 months, i relised after 4 months i had fallen for him and he felt the same way, then 2 nights ago out of nowhere at all he said he wants to finnish because he dosent love me any more and the stresses of uni means he wont have time to juggle me with uni work. this came out of nowhere as we were still geting along. we were having a long distant relationship (he lives in southampton and i live in south devon). for both of us this was our first love and first proper relationship and i never felt so good about myself. we both have social anxiety witch means we have big problems with people and geting close. all this has shook me and knocked me back so far im hardly eating and sleeping and im crying a lot. as of this evening iv decided i will stay friends with him as i cant see my life without him, i hurt just thinking i couldnt have him even as a friend. i feel a little beter talking about this.

(excuse the spelling etc im dyslecic)
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Registered: 02-23-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 9:40am

I'm so sorry you are hurting from your breakup.. first loves always hit really hard. You are doing really good spending time with friends. Sometimes you gotta cry it out, and cry some more, lean of friends and write out your feelings. It's ok to be sad for alittle bit, but you gotta try and eat alittle, and take naps if you can. Then you need to get outside and ride a bike, or go to a movie, visit a zoo or something to realize that there is so much out there and this is just a minor set back. There will be more guys in your life that will touch your heart. Maybe when your studies aren't so stressful you can still become friends again and who knows, but right now, heal your heart, take the time you need, and write here anytime

Hugs, Grace