JUST DID IT!!!

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Registered: 11-09-2006
JUST DID IT!!!
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Tue, 11-14-2006 - 2:29am

I JUST HAD SEX WITH MY EX AND NOW I FEEL LIKE CRAP.

HE SAYS HE DOESN'T HAVE A NEW GIRL AND ISN'T SLEEPING AROUND.

HE JUST LEFT TO MEET "HER".

HE IS ALWAYS ASKING ME IF I HAVE ANOTHER BOYFRIEND. WHERE I HAVE BEEN. HAVE I BEEN WITH ANYONE SINCE WE BROKE UP.

WHY???

WHY THE QUESTIONS???

YOU LEFT ME.

YOU SHOULDN'T CARE.

WHY DO YOU CARE???

I AM SO EMOTIONALLY TORN APART RIGHT NOW I AM SICK TO MY STOMACH.

I WAS WITH HIM FOR 6 YEARS AND HE UP AND LEFT.

WE HAVE 2 KIDS.

HE IS SENDING ME SO MANY MIXED SIGNALS!!!

WHAT SHOULD I DO???

SINCERELY...

LONELY, SAD, AND SCARED.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Tue, 11-14-2006 - 10:52am

I'm sorry about that.

Myspace Codes

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 11-14-2006 - 12:51pm

Listen to cl-i_b_sandradee - she gave you excellent advice.

I'm going to try to answer some of your questions though - these are best guesses based on lots of human behavior.

::HE IS ALWAYS ASKING ME IF I HAVE ANOTHER BOYFRIEND. WHERE I HAVE BEEN. HAVE I BEEN WITH ANYONE SINCE WE BROKE UP.

Because his ego wants to make sure he's still the only guy in your life. It makes him feel good.

::WHAT SHOULD I DO???

You are going to have to be the one that sets boundaries and enforces them. He will try to get what he wants - an ego stroke from you, sex, etc. you will have to be the one that says no, means it and doesn't allow the situation to 'go there'.

Sorry you have to go through this.


Carrie

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Registered: 09-30-2006
Tue, 11-14-2006 - 1:19pm

First of all, forgive yourself.

It's not uncommon to sleep with an ex again, and whether or not you should have, you did. That's it. So don't beat yourself up over it.

Because you're here, it seems you have the desire to move on. That is all you need to do, take one step at a time toward recovery.

You will get stronger. Just don't look back, look forward!!

Hugs.

 

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Registered: 11-09-2006
Tue, 11-14-2006 - 1:55pm
THANKS ALL!! READING ALL THAT MADE ME FEEL BETTER ABOUT MYSELF. IT'S JUST THAT WE WERE TOGETHER FOR 6 YEARS AND I FEEL HE IS ASKING ME ALL THOSE QUESTIONS BECAUSE HE STILL LOVES ME AND DOESN'T WANT ME TO HAVE ANYONE. I AM SLOWLY MOVING ON. WHEN THE RIGHT PERSON COMES ALONG, I WILL KNOW. AS FOR NOW, I AM NOT LOOKING FOR ANY MAN. MY PRIORITY IS MY KIDS AND MYSELF. THANKS AGAIN.