Just dont get it & its driving me crazy!
Find a Conversation
Just dont get it & its driving me crazy!
| Sun, 01-13-2008 - 9:52pm |
So on December 1st my wonderful, fun, caring boyfriend broke up with me.
| Sun, 01-13-2008 - 9:52pm |
So on December 1st my wonderful, fun, caring boyfriend broke up with me.
I had to laugh about the money stuff. The fact that he's saying those things about how much you're costing him, already shows that you and him would never agree on money. If you had gotten more serious, this problem would have worsened. My ex and I argued about money all the time.
To make you laugh, my first boyfriend was quite wealthy, I am not. I dated him for six months. In the whole six months we were together, all he bought me was a stupid keychain that cost him 4 bucks, if that. When we went out to dinner (which was very rare), I paid.
As for my second ex (not the current one), he told me he loved me three hours after he broke up with me, and added "and you know in what way!" Yeah ... as a friend. Thanks a lot, LOSER!!
Welcome to the board valandrudy,
My guess is that 1) he would have always blamed you for any issues (I'm spending so much money on you, it's all your fault) because he can't say no to friends or he likes the way it makes him feel to treat them and 2) he may have misread your expectations in the relationship and instead of discussing them with you, he ended things.
Accepting what is, how things are, isn't always easy. Process the grief and keep moving forward.
Relationship Grieving Process
I totally understand how you feel. I broke up with my ex on Dec. 1st because of commitment issues and he told me that night that he loved me to try to get me not to break up with him. We ended up getting back together on Dec. 18th, but I broke up with him again on Jan. 6th because we were having similar problems with commitment and him feeling I expected too much of him financially. He refused to let me pay for anything, so when he started having financial problems after his father lost his job, he stopped taking me out and he didn't even get me a Christmas gift.
I was hurt about the Christmas gift at first, but I decided to be understanding about his financial situation and let it go. I also wanted to let it go because he told me he loved me again on Christmas. Then he told me on Dec. 27th that he was going to make it up to me and then he never called me again. He only wanted to talk via text message after that, like he was afraid if we talked I would call him out on his promise to make it up to me, which I never would have done.
Needless to say, I broke up with him on Jan. 6th over text
I think what you are saying is completely true however ultimately I did offer to pay many times along the way.