Just don't have it in me...
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Just don't have it in me...
| Tue, 09-27-2005 - 1:16pm |
okay..so the bf left me 2 months ago..and has slowly moved his stuff out of our apt...we had lived together for 5 months..we were together for 5 years..took some time off..and in july had our new one year anniversary. i can't deal anymore..he keeps calling..and i know i should not talk to him or see him..but its so hard. he left because he said he was sick of us fighting (LONG story) and that he didn't believe me that we could fix it..i just can't grasp that after only 5 months he was so willing to quit...he says he still loves me and loves hanging out with me..because we're not arguing anymore..again.i know i need to stop talking to him and seeing him..but i don't have it in me..i feel like he knows he made a mistake..and its making me hold on..and it just sucks because i'm pretty good if i don't see/talk to him..but then he comes over (to pick up some stuff) and he leaves and i'm all sad again...any advice on how to suck it up and get over this?? i wish i could just hate him..then it would be sooo easy to just brush him off and out of my life
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atm12978...
Pianoguy has a suggestion....
Grab a legal pad and make a list that briefly outlines EVERY ARGUMENT (you can remember) that the 2 of you have had over the past 5 months.
Keep this as your point of reference whenever you feel weak, sentimental, or melancholy!
Your b/f MIGHT think he misses you? But that's not enough of an excuse to suddenly make your relationship HAPPY! Reference your list, consider all the fights the 2 of you have had in the past...and would probably have in the future?
Then MOVE ON...
Pianoguy
Everyone here will say apply the no contact rule but...
Is he your friend now or still a lover?
The roller coaster is hard. You know it's best not to see him..are you close to being ready??