just got rid of suspected cheat
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just got rid of suspected cheat
| Sat, 09-25-2004 - 1:49am |
He said he didn't actually cheat -- but I do have copies of emails he sent to others. I tried to give him another chance, then found out He had seen a lot more of a third other.
I can't figure out the truth of the whole thing, but I know I need someone who is around. This guy claims to work insane hours and has no time for me.
Support would be nice.
Kat

I broke up with my xb for the same reason---he had been portraying himself as single and available on the online dating service that we met on. Initially his account showed no activity, but when he went back home to visit his parents ( while I was waiting for his return home)---his account showed activity. I had my friend "wink" at him, and to my sadness he wrote her back a few hours later. When I read what he wrote her, my heart broke bc/ he was the first man that I had given my heart to. We had only known each other for about six months, but we had agreed to cancell our profiles--since we were exclusive and "in love." Apparently, he was being dishonest.
The main thing that I want to tell you is that ( I know that this helped me out a lot)....no man who loves you will cheat. I consider my xb's online charades as cheating---I mean how far would he have gone?...'til he met my friend? Then what? If someone loves you and cares about you---he will not doubt your relationship. And he surely wouldn't reply to other emails from women that he doesn't even know. His heart and thoughts should only be with you! You deserve someone who will think the world of you. Regardless of how "busy" he is---if he cares about you, he will do whatever it takes to spend time with you. You are worth so much more...and besides he obvioulsy found the time to go "online" to check out other women instead of placing his efforts on you. And I also believe that in order for him to write to other members that he had to have paid the $20 or $30 membership fee! What a jerk!
I'm proud of you for getting rid of him! I always feel that a woman's intuition is powerful, and that whatever doubts that you may have almost always stem from some truthful place. With my xb---I remember waking up at 2am with this feeling of uneasiness, and I'm glad that I found out the truth. There are a lot of women who don't want to face the truth bc/ they're scared about losing the portrayed love in a relationship. If love is true and real, then it wouldn't be so difficult to keep or be so dishonest.
You need to focus on yourself and put your happiness first! A man like him is obviously confused---you shouldn't make the time for him. He obviously doesn't care! He's an idiot!--and he'll be kicking himself in the as* soon enough for losing such a great thing bc/ of his inablity to step up to the plate and be a real man.
I send you my deepest support!
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